Do you "cry" during sex?

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  1. BoomerP

    BoomerP New Member

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    This is kind of awkward thing to be asking...Embarrassing. It seems like a weird thing to be happening and I can't explain the psycology in this. Then after when the other guy thinks he did something wrong and try to tell him no no, dont worry it is all good. It does not happen all the time but.. enough to be a worry

    It's always been like this. I am no crybaby either and I have had my share of bumps, bruises and broken bones :eek3:

    Wondering if someone else does this too?
     
  2. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Why do you think you cry or do you have no idea?
     
  3. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    A girl has done this with me once.

    She said it was okay. I had already heard so many stories about girls randomly crying after sex; so I didn't feel bad. :dunno:

    There are no rules in the bedroom :)
     
  4. BoomerP

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    I don't know why it happens. It's not cause of some horrible child trauma or something. When it happens it just starts with tears building up and if I don't take a timeout I can't stop the urge to cry. Then I panic when I feel it happening and it just makes it all worse. Like I can only hold my breath for so long. Takes a toll on my ego and I feel like an idiot heh..

    Well it's no big deal when you are really intimate.. but before that it is a moodbreaker and the next day is.. oh my god.. pretend that never happened and never mention it again
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Sounds like an issue for a therapist or medical professional to me.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    No. This was the first or second time we had sex.
     
  7. Bacardi 151

    Bacardi 151 New Member

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    During sex? No.

    SO? No.

    Would freak me out a little tbh.
     
  8. saosko

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    that's not normal. never happened to me.
     
  9. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I can accept that sometimes people cry without reason. If you say that is the case, I believe you.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Actually it is somewhat of a stereotype.
     
  11. saosko

    saosko OT Supporter

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    stereotype in what way?
     
  12. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I don't accept it. It is my belief that everything has a cause.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    "Why do women cry after sex?"

    something people say :dunno:
     
  14. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Evidently...
     
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    It has happend a couple times when I was in my 20's, not sure why. Maybe good sex after a bad relationship ended or something like that. :dunno: And as BoomerP said, it was first time sex in the new relationship.
     
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    Doesn't sound like a big deal.
     
  17. PcH

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    It's happened, but it was a good kinda passionate cry.
     
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    Ask Dr. Drew:

    Q: I’ve been seeing a man for several months, and it’s been going well. Recently though, I’ve been having a tremendous urge to cry after sex. I have felt rejected in the past after being intimate with someone, but this man is very sensitive to my feelings. He has never done anything to make me feel he was going to leave and not want me any more. Where might these feelings come from? MV. Illinois

    A: In my experience, this is not uncommon. Some women actually cry tears of joy after sex, but that’s a small minority. Crying usually occurs because the sex exposes an incongruence of some kind. How you feel about the relationship or yourself doesn’t match with the intense intimacy you’re experiencing.

    It might be that your feelings have changed and you’re not in the relationship the way you have been before. You’re expecting very strong emotions, and they’re just not there. The sex confronts you with that emptiness and lack of love and makes you feel bad.

    Sometimes people cry after sex because they expect rejection and distance. The fact that he is showing you genuine feelings is exposing deficiencies in your intimate relationships in the past, perhaps when you were growing up. You may see yourself as unworthy of such openness. Ironically, many women who feel that way actually become rejecters themselves, unconsciously sabotaging their relationships so they won't have to experience abandonment.

    Finally, if you are a survivor of trauma or abuse, sex can trigger a kind of flashback. You’re flooded with by feelings and just get overwhelmed and cry.

    My advice is to hang in there and see what comes of it. Don’t allow yourself to bail out because you can’t deal. If you can’t sustain it, that’s when I would recommend therapy. Drew Pinsky MD.
     
  19. PcH

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    Very interesting read
     
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    JoJoBee Hanging out with my chicks! OT Supporter

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  22. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    Google it. There is a bit of differencing of opinion, though the general consensus says it's not uncommon and doesn't mean there is or was anything wrong.
     
  23. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    recent girl would either turn into a laughing crazy or some tears when I refuse to stop making her cum. It's a fun game :bowrofl:
     
  24. vodkacollins

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    its happened to me. i cry because its an emotional experience. its never been a bad experience, although i think i did freak my SO out the first time it happened.

    how often does this happen? once a week? once a month?
     
  25. wolfskymoon

    wolfskymoon Guest

    Usually chix cry after I slap em silly during steamy sex









    j/k.
     

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