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  1. trudat

    trudat cervPun

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    once a cheater always a cheater.
     
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    sportsjunkie OT Supporter

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    no not necessarily

    but sometimes i do believe that if a person cheats with you, they're more likely to cheat on you
     
  3. Kalypso

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    It depends. There's really 3 types of people when it comes to cheating, all comes down to identifying what you're dealing with-

    1) Someone who doesn't cheat
    This is either because they have the balls to end a relationship immediately after interest is lost and seek someone else, or because they have a mental block about cheating.

    2) Someone who cheats because they are too scared to leave the relationship that they don't like
    This category probably includes about 50-80% of people

    3) A cheater
    Has no respect for their partner, player etc.
     
  4. Jack Horner

    Jack Horner Guest

    So I'm assuming that you would say the last group is far more likely to cheat again than the second group?
     
  5. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    I believe that someone who feels comfortable doing something is likely to repeat the behavior, especially if the behavior is rewarding.
     
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    As a general rule, yes. Cheating indicates poor character. Fortunately poor character comes out in other visible ways, so this can hopefully be avoided one way or another.
     
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    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    I have known long term cheaters (cheaters that cheated with many different partners over many different years) that have stopped themselves and are now in committed, non-cheating relationships. But I also know repeat offenders.

    The guys that stopped simply grew to dislike the lifestyle they were living. They wanted more out of life and felt like they were just living a lie and wanted to be more authentic in their lives. This desire made them work hard to change those old behaviors. However, just like anything that we've lived with for long periods....it can be very difficult to let go of and change.
     
  9. lauren

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    no.

    but i do believe once a cheater with that person, always a cheater with that person.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I believe in the fact that everyone has the ability to cheat.
     
  11. owenstar

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    I never thought I would cheat....and I did it...and it was the dumbest damn thing I ever did....

    My father cheated on my mother, married his mistress and they have lived happily ever after....
     
  12. cracka.

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    yes. proves integrity.
     
  13. Bruticus

    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    No, but I'll never date someone who I know cheated in the past. I think they can change, but I'd rather not associate with someone who could do that to someone they supposedly cared about.
     
  14. thetruesms

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    :werd: the drive to cheat can come from several different motivations . . . but once the precedent has been established, there's no reason to believe it won't happen to that same person again
     
  15. huntz0r

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    Unattractive men don't.

    Unless they can afford a hooker.
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Still counts. Everyone has the capability to cheat.
     
  17. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    No.

    People have the capacity to change (although they rarely do).

    I do believe that we all have the capacity to cheat because of our strong sexual urges.
     
  18. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    All men attract at least some women.

    The trick is, are these women attractive enough to him to get his dick hard.
     
  19. huntz0r

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    Attracting a woman and having sex with her are two VERY different things :rofl:

    Anyway, of course we all have the capacity to cheat. We all have the capacity to lie, steal, and murder, or anything else we choose to do. It's called free will. Turning that into some kind of moral equivalence like some people do is bullshit.

    "Hey don't criticize, YOU COULD DO IT TOO!" Yeah maybe I could, but I WON'T because I CHOOSE NOT TO. Big fucking difference. And, like it or not, if someone CHOOSES to act in such a fucked up way, it says something about them.
     
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    nope. "could" doesn't mean "would". and yes, people can change.
     
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    Once a cheater always a cheater. I've met a few exceptions, but as a rule of thumb I think it is a safe bet.
     

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