Do you associate Sex with Love?

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  1. billzabub

    billzabub OT Supporter

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    Personally, I don't... and, I'm not sure if that is wrong...

    let's hear it...
     
  2. GSRwBOOST

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    no but i love good sex....


    but seriously no.. they are related but not dependant on each other. you dont need sex to have love.
     
  3. beautiful disaster

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    agreed...they're not dependant on each other but i think it makes the sex better on that kind of a level
     
  4. Devilish

    Devilish Remind me AGAIN

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    I'd like it to be that way, but it's not.

    Works both ways: You don't need sex to have love, and you don't need love to have sex.
     
  5. Elusion

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    They are independent of each other initially. But if one has sex with someone regularly one grows to love them. And vice versa.
     
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    not really, but sex with someone you love is so much better than sex with someone you don't :hsd:
     
  7. Guardfather

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    Yes and no. I can very easily acknowledge strong sexual desires for women I'm not in love with and do not love at all. However, I won't have sex with a woman unless we love each other. I view it as something sacred, and I choose to keep it highly sacred.
     
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    agreed but the same way you don't need sex to have love you don't need love to have sex. although i've learned that if you're in love with someone the sex is better.
     
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    i like how you think a lot. most guys just don't care and will have sex with any girl whether they love them or not. :bigthumb:
     
  10. Guardfather

    Guardfather The Paradox

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    It's tough having a high testosterone level and VERY strong sex drive. But I don't think I'd have had a chance with the great lady I love if I didn't have that moral value.
     
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    If I actually believed in this thing calle dlove, my answer to teh question would be:

    No, love and sex are two different things. You can have either one without the other.
     
  12. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    :bowdown::bigthumb: Thank goodness I'm not the only one with these kind of morals!
     
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    you can love someone without having sex with them though
     
  14. chica&buddies

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    wow... i'd agree with this :)
     
  15. Guardfather

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    I think in many cases people may or may not develop additional feelings for each other if they're having sex regularly. However, it's noteworthy that some women experience something called "Nesting Instinct". There are several meanings for that term. The meaning I'm talking about is the phenomenon in which a woman feels very strongly attached to a man after having sex with him. There is a biological/hormonal response in most women that comes from sex (not sure if orgasm is required).

    I think it's becoming less and less significant as society tends to be offering more powerful influence than many of our severely depleated instincts.

    Any ladies care to comment on that subject?
     
  16. ziggie216

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    just take porn stars for a good example.. do they actually love the person they're banging? of course not.. it's business and pleasure
     
  17. lauren

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    i used to say i would never have sex with someone i didnt love...and i still think that way. however, looking back on a couple past relationships, i know i wasnt in love, no where near. i thought i was at the time, and i guess thats what is important.... but now that ive had the real thing, i recognize my early relationships as lust, or infatuation.

    of course they are indipendant of one another, but they also compliment each other.
     
  18. billzabub

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    there seems to be a consensus...lol... I bring this up for the following reason: I truly love my fiance and think she is beatiful, cute, and sexy... yet, out of the blue one day, it just occurred to me that our sexual relationship was completely independent from our emotional relationship.... :weird:
     
  19. Elusion

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    hence the vice versa
     
  20. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    I dunno... I hold porn stars to a different standard; they aren't like normal humans in my view.
     
  21. ProneToEpisodes

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    Personally I dont think you need love for good sex, however it does make the act alot more sakred and special. Im a girl BTW too.

    Some say: "Men love to have sex and women have sex to love" :dunno:
     
  22. Cerridwen

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    I do associate sex with love. Sex is a very loving intimate act between my husband and myself. Sex without love just isn't very good IMO.
     

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