Do women not want to get involved with bisexual men?

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  1. D-FENS

    D-FENS New Member

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    So, I'm bi, but in the closet. My attraction is still primarily toward women, if I had to break it down I'd say it's 70% women, 30% men. For any long term significant relationships, I only see myself with women, but I still have some interest in men (for the most part it's sexual, but some emotional elements are there).

    I'm really starting to get uncomfortable keeping my attraction to men in the closet, but I get the feeling that if I come out, girls will simply brand me as "gay," and/or be uncomfortable with dating a guy who is attracted to men.

    If I make my bisexuality public, would I be killing my chances with any women who know about it?
     
  2. Ford4Life

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    Your best bet would be bi-sexual women. Some women are going to be turned off by it.
     
  3. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    From my experiences most straight women dont find 'bi men' attractive.
     
  4. Cobra Commander

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    I would be more private about it..until you get to know the woman more. I like to know that my women are truthful with me, i would expect them to want the same from me.
     
  5. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    I say you use it to score with chicks. They might not like bi-men. But they love gay men. So... don't tell them you are bi, tell them you are gay and let them "convert" you. Win/win
     
  6. D7

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    Women? That's pretty broad. What types of women do you want to attract?

    You have to be yourself for people to accept you for who you are

    Depends on the woman. A lot of women do know, whether you acknowledge it or not, and they've accepted it and proceeded anyway but you've assumed they haven't known.
     
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    I don't think it would bother me too much but I would have to know that you were being honest about having safe sex.
     
  8. D-FENS

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    It's not so much that I think girls will be homophobic, but I could see how a girl would be uncomfortable with it in the sense that she does not fulfill all of my desires. A girl with a fully heterosexual man feels secure in knowing that as a straight man, a girl fulfills all of his intimate desires, while a girl with a bisexual guy could feel insecure knowing that there are intimate desires she cannot satisfy.

    (I'd like to note that I realize this sounds a bit misogynist as if it is a woman's job to satisfy men, but you see what I'm getting at in how one may be uncomfortable knowing that they are unable to fully satisfy their partner)
     
  9. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    It would bother me about a guy and I would not want to be in a relationship with a bi guy. But I have this fantasy of having sex with two bisexual guys, when we are all enjoying each other's bodies:mamoru:
     
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    exactly.

    be exactly who you are. if the woman doesnt like it, move on. there will be someone who likes you for everything that you are
     
  11. antihero

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    i think its a love it or hate it kinda thing.

    8 out of 10 will HATE it, 1 out of ten will tolerate it grudgingly, and 1 out of 10 will think its hot... maybe more like .5 out of 10 on that last one.
     
  12. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I couldn't do it personally. It's bad enough possibly worrying about a guy's wandering eyes at other girls, let alone both sexes :mamoru:
     
  13. BoomerP

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    this is so devious it might just work
     
  14. MissKitty

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    No. But it would kill your chances with the kind of women you don't want :big grin:

    I think it is a lot easier for a woman to please a male in every way, than it is for a man to please a woman in every way.

    Bisexual doesn't mean polygamy so in saying that your sexuality should represent who you are, but not the kind of partner you are going to be - unless it is an open relationship.

    My ex is bisexual and it never bothered me. The cheating bothered me (amongst other things). I thought my husband was gay when I met him and it never impacted our relationship one bit. But then again I am very open sexually and have very little hangs up when it comes to sex.
     
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    Im bi so I don't think I would mind. Heh I am hypocrite
     
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    the kind of women who would be interested in "converting" a gay guy would immediately lose interest after said conversion. he's looking for long term stuff with girls, primarily, so this strategy wouldn't really work.
     
  17. Savage5point0

    Savage5point0 Im an asshole.

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    I didnt know there was such thing as a bisexual male. I thought that was just called being gay. :dunno: You should probably hide it.
     
  18. freckleface

    freckleface expose the raw nerve and get on with our lives...

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    You should explore your desires to be with a man. Stop thinking of other shit. I would not walk around with a sign ( I AM BI ) but explore. SAFELY
    Grown ups do not run around telling everything that they do :)
     
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    be who you are act like who you are and fuck anyone who doesnt accept you or you. At the same time just get interested in a girl date her then tell he if she really digs you it shouldn't matter.
     
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    Ya no.... bi sexual men is not a turn on for women!
     
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    oh I did not realize you were the ambassador for all women


    my apologies, ambassador.
     
  22. God of Thunder

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    girls never want to lose their guy to another girl, but if you ever leave your girl for a guy, you'll likely scar her for life.
     
  23. bs2100

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    How is this any different than if he was straight?
     
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    ehh.. i dont think id dig it..
     
  25. MissKitty

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    Because men on men sex = aids. Duh. Men only know how to have safe sex with women :rofl:

    I really go loath the stereotype that gay men have a higher risk of getting or transmitting and SDT/STI. As if the penis in arse issue is the only thing to come into play
     

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