Do women like single Dads?

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  1. Socrates

    Socrates New Member

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    I am not talking about meaningless dates. I mean when girls are on the prowl for a serious relationship.

    Do you guys think a man's child would turn most women away?
     
  2. demosnat

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    It would turn me away.
     
  3. Amanda Ann

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    It makes me turn the other way. And, I'm speaking from past experiences of dating guys with kids.
     
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    I would bet that it would be similar to guys and single moms.
     
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    i think it would make me more attracted to the guy to be honest
    :dunno:

    shows me he has some meaning/purpose/goals and could be a responsible individual
     
  6. althepirate

    althepirate Talk nerdy to me.

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    I would turn away.
     
  7. Persaeus

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    Turn off for a female who is childless. Who the hell wants to deal with some baby momma drama? But, if we are talking about a divorcee or a woman with a kid of her own, not a turn off.

    Beyond that, it is very sweet to see a father care for his child and it shows that the man has some depth of character and some females may translate that to mean the guy is quality relationship material.
     
  8. Aronomy

    Aronomy Get your COME ON!

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    I would not even consider dating a single dad.
     
  9. Yail Bloor

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    so its no big deal for a man to say he doesn't want to date a woman with kids, right?
     
  10. Persaeus

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    Right, why would it be a big deal? *confused*
     
  11. Amanda Ann

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    I don't see an issue with it. :dunno: (the man not wanting to date a mother..)


    Like someone pointed out, I think for many people, it has to do with where they are in their lives. A divorced man, or a man with his own kids might have no problem dating a woman with kids, while a young, bar hopping 20-some year old might feel constrained with dating a woman with a child.
     
  12. demosnat

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    Everyone has things they don't want in a partner, nothing wrong with that. Its important for me that whoever i'm dating doesn't have a relationship with their ex, which is a given if they have a child.

    So, actually, i'm over generalizing, were I older (i'm 22) and the mom was in NO way in the picture I would consider
     
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    That would be my concern.
     
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    ive done it before and although it wasnt the best situation, i wouldnt bolt for the hills if i found out the guy had a kid. it still depends on circumstances: does he actively see the child, how long has he been separated from the mom, what type of father is he, etc

    the guy i was dating was only technically on a "break" from his sons mom, which is why i got out of there fast.
     
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    I want to be a mom and failing at it for a wile now so for me it would be actualy a good thing i can be mom without feeling patetic that my oven is not working to bake one :X
     
  16. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    To me, it matters less that he's a dad, and more the kind of dad he is. If he was a good dad, I absolutely would date him. If he was a shit deadbeat dad then I'd haul ass the other way.
     
  17. iwishyouwerebeer

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    To be completely honest, it would turn me off and possibly away when first told you were already a young father.

    sorry :sadwavey:
     
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    haha nice one.
     
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    I'd most likely run - the same way I'd expect many guys to run from single moms.

    That said, it'd probably depend a lot on the situation - how old his kids were, his relationship with his baby mama, what type of dad he was, etc. I might consider it more if his kids were a bit older and say, his baby mama was married to someone else and he was a good dad, even then I dont know though...
     
  20. lick wid nit wit

    lick wid nit wit Official OT Oracle

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    Since I have chosen never to have children, yeah, it would be a dealbreaker for me.

    I've done it in the past and vowed never to do it again. I've been in a few situations where the ex becomes the psycho bitch from hell as soon as she realizes her "babydaddy" (I hate that word SO much) has moved on from her and is in another relationship. she does absolutely everything to kibosh the new relationship and well, fuck it. It's not worth the aggravation.

    Been there, won't ever do it again unless the kids are no longer minor children.
     
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    No, should it be?
     
  22. lauren

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    it's a deal breaker now, but it wouldn't be such a turn off if the guy is older (mid 30s).
     
  23. owenstar

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    I am a single dad without custody....

    I havent had a problem....infact, most women who say they dont date guys with kids/smoke seem to have little problem with me....

    That said, my daughter is a seperate part of my life....not one woman I am dating/have dated has met my daughter...They all know I have my daughter at specific times and that I cant hang out on those days....never once has it been an issue....infact most find it "cute"....

    Eventually when I find someone that I like a lot, things will change....I am sure someone will meet my daughter eventually....I want to be respectful to both parties...and that time is for her only....

    My crazy (or sometimes not) ex isnt my new girlfriends issue....Its mine....She wouldnt expect me to handle her debt collectors or whatever....I dont expect her to handle my ex....no baby mama drama for anyone but me....

    My ex is getting married next year....so I guess my situation is different than some....I just work harder to make my daughter happy and keep a personal life than some....And no woman has said "see you later" over it...

    That said, I aint that deep in it...my kid is only a year old
     
  24. yankeeschick14

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    so your ex wife met someone and is getting remarried within a year's time? not knocking it or anything, i just can't imagine getting over one marriage and being ready for the next that quickly.
     
  25. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    But if it were a guy 18 to say 27 I'm going to ask a million questions.
     

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