Do not have sex initially...?

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  1. evh

    evh Active Member

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    If you give up sex freely from the start, little value is placed on it, and on you.



    I've always wondered why most women won't put out on the first date. Well, I think I found my answer.


    I just found that interesting as fuck, I thought I would share.
    I'm going to make a new rule for myself. No sex without sufficient time.
     
  2. kiri

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    i can see why people don't want to do it on the first date, but i think it's stupid to wait like a month if both people obviously want to do it.
     
  3. evh

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    a month? fuck that lmao
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    If I was 'serious' with a girl and saw her 2/3 times a week, if she didnt sleep w/ me after two weeks id probably cut it off :rofl:
     
  5. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    The girl I'm with now wanted it the first night. I made her wait until the second. She came back.
     
  6. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    The value I place on sex is not affected by how long it takes to have it.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Here we go with this sentimental bullshit. :big grin:
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Nothing sentimental about it. I'm just saying sex is sex whether it's on the first date or the thirty first.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Ah, made it sound like, "Sex is so important that it doesnt matter how long it takes"
     
  10. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :rofl: Nah. I just think this idea of making sex special by not having it is bullshit. If I go to two different restaurants and order a chocolate milkshake, but one takes longer than the other, I enjoy them both the same amount. Only real difference is I'm more annoyed with the slower restaurant. I think some people put this emphasis on sex losing it's power if you have it too soon or too often and I think that's bullshit.
     
  11. evh

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    You're misinterpeting me.

    All I'm saying is that if you give up sex too freely, you will be undermining the value assigned to the act of you having sex AND yourself.

    Basically, wait a night or two before you fuck her.
     
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    umm.. no
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    No, I'm understanding you just right. You think by having sex too fast, it somehow lowers the value of it and you. I disagree entirely. I think any such belief is completely artificial and only in the mind of the believer. There is no universal law that states sex and/or people are more valuable after having waited to engage in intercourse. :rofl:
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    And now you complain that she seems to only like hard, dirty sex with no emotions....fitting the exact point the TS is making :eek3:

    :mamoru: @ you just coming to this realization evh
     
  15. evh

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    beer, i'm young lol.
     
  16. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    I missing what you're trying to say.

    She doesn't seem to only like that, she gets off plenty on our sex. It wasn't something that occurred more than a few times when we first started dating. Again, I've really been killing the mood being stuck in stage 5, but I feel like I was kind of set up.

    I really am just interested in her mode of action. I've always wondered if she really liked it or not. It's never once been a point of contention for her. But she may just be afraid to voice the fact that she's not feeling as "secure" in her "man" and attraction to sensitivity and heavy emotion is only one side of the equation.
     
  17. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    Oh.

    I got you.
     
  18. THoC

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    i disagree. probably bc i do not place a love value to sex. to me sex is sex.

    i place a more romantic value to sitting on a couch next to each other sharing massages then to sex.
     
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    Truth.
     
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    I agree with this to a point, but it's more because I always lose interest if I sleep with somebody right away.

    I fucked up and slept with the girl I'm crushing on right now on the first night, luckily she seems to be the the only exception so far
     
  21. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    I disagree.

    It's all about execution.

    Though I get the ambiance you're trying to convey and there certainly is something romantic about sharing a bottle of wine and some massages on the couch with a bunch of votive candles lit.

    But I've definitely had good, passionate, romantic sex that leaves her floored, and then follow that up with a back and leg massage for her good night's sleep.

    Eye of the beer holder I reckon'.
     
  22. THoC

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    im not saying you cant have sex during a moment of love sharing. im saying that sex, on its own, is not relevant to love.

    TS is saying that we should wait a few dates to make it more valuable. i see no added value in waiting if you both want it.
     
  23. Vysion

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    Waiting doesn't make the sex any more meaningful or valuable than if you did it when you first met someone.

    If 2 people are attracted to each other then have sex whenever each one is ready.

    This 'more value if you wait' bullshit, is just that, bullshit.
     
  24. evh

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    All I'm saying is that the girl will wanna fuck you more, simply because you haven't fucked her yet.
     
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    Waiting just gives you time to know each others personalities better before having sex.

    It's not the sex you initially value, it's the chemistry and personal connection you value.

    Sex without chemistry and connection is just sex. Sex with chemistry and connection is a relationship.
     

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