Sorry if this has come up before, I'm new. I had been thinking about this recently. I had suspected that a friend of mine in school was flirting with me, but then I found out she was a lesbian. Then I thought that maybe she was being flirtatious because flirting is such a social convention in our society and isn't always used to arouse another person's interest, but can be used in other contexts. So do gay men flirt with women and lesbians with men?