Dinner Dates a go?

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  1. danewreed

    danewreed OT Supporter

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    Lets me start out by saying I live in a city with a large bar scene, think 5 streets lined up and down with bars. Moreover we have a well-educated population with the largest University here.

    So, some of my friends think dinner dates are a waste of time. At the same time I realize people on the scene are usually trying to drink, hang with friends and look for a overnighter.

    What I'm curious about is if I meet a cool female with is asking her out for a dinner date going to be repulsive and overly romantic. For example I have a Brazilian friend and was going to ask her out to eat at a new Brazilian restaurant. Me, I find this a easier way to get to know the chick outside of sex, I have the resources to do so but I don't want to waste it.
     
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    Werd.

    We haven't had sex, but I'd like to eventually have sex based off our interactions.

    I've done my homework on the restaurant - it's pretty good. The way I offered dinner was more of I'd like to try it out, and would like you to join me.
     
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    Good points. Do you feel the general idea of dinner dates is a good idea or has it been replaced by alternative methods? I've known people who won't do them.
     
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    For sure. I figure it's a central meeting area and gets us both out away from the goons @ bars. :rofl: Also we have movie theaters that serve food, so that's another option.
     
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    drink wine with her
     
  6. danewreed

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    I usually get a bottle :)
     
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    Thanks for your input, so true about the high maintenance piece.

    The major negative I see is finding the time to go together.
     
  8. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    read the mother fucking sticky
     
  9. danewreed

    danewreed OT Supporter

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    I did

    Dinner dates just don't seem common/all the rage around me anymore
     
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    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    drinks before dinner dates.
     
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    Nothing wrong with a dinner date, but it should be an inexpensive dinner, and you should be doing something else before or after that involves physical interaction. Dinner by itself doesn't show much initiative or creativity.

    Also you should have at least an hour or two in with the girl in some context before you spend any real money.
     
  12. danewreed

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    I'm going to give her a call later today. My stomach is getting these butterflies, lol. I'm more exicted than nervous.
     
  13. danewreed

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    We've hung out already amongst friends. If she agrees to this, I'll start with dinner and incorporate another activity into it, as we'll be in a central area for things to do.
     
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    sitting around talking is boring and its difficult for her attraction to you to increase during that time
     
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    Dinner dates are great..... BARS = terrible for a date, a nice lounge/cafe = WIN
     
  16. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    wuh... what? Yeah they are if you've got a very strong verbal game. But an awful idea if you don't
     
  17. danewreed

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    I have something similar I dreamed up. There's an upscale rooftop bar, that has a lounge inside, in 60's Vegas style decor. On the weekend they show a funny movie on the patio and serve drinks + food.

    If there's any interest from the girl I gauge, dinner dates allow me to run with it, as I'm comfortable talking with those whom I believe are worth my time and tend to build interest.
     
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    the way to a woman's heart is through her stomach....or something :o
     
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    If a girl likes you, you could take her to a shit-sniffing emporium and she'd love it.

    A lot of people will bash you for not doing an "action" date, but I say go for it. Dinner is a nice, mature way to get to know someone.

    The key is not to do it all the time and mix it up with what you do. Action dates are the funnest types of dates, but it's not ALL you should do. Sometimes you need to sit across from her and TALK. The first date is probably one of the better times to do this.
     
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    If you have no 'verbal' game, meaning you can't hold up a conversation, then you shouldn't be attempting to date until you figure that part of your life out first. :ugh2:
     
  21. danewreed

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    I called and left a v-mail. :bowdown:
     
  22. danewreed

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    Did you glance over my date idea, any opinions?
     
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    Thanks for the insight.

    Here's pics of the place to give you a visual:

    http://www.thebelmontaustin.com/gallery.php

    Yeah this place is usually full of deuchebags on Saturday night but this cinema event happens on Sundays - way more of a chill atmosphere. They are showing Will Farrell movies this month, and this week's is my least favorite movie of his so watching it will go on bottom of priorities. I'd like to get to know her better. I'm definetly a talker in the right environment, I have a background in sales but I can be a (content) loner too, it's a mix I go with. I'll give her another call this week, already left her a voicemail but my gut tells me she already have plans with the girls ora another guy -but we'll need to try to sync something out if this is a go.
     
  24. danewreed

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    Good to know. Austin single's scene can seem like a shift between stuck up bia's, and bar slots.
     
  25. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    hey bud no offense but women are usually the absolute last people you want to ask for dating advice. Most of them don't... have much experience dating girls lol.
     

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