Difficult to orgasm during sex..

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  1. Jay487

    Jay487 What's Life If You Ain't Enjoyin' It?

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    The first few times I had sex I didnt cum, which I assumed was from nerves/whatever. Eventually, (all with the same girl) I did, and did again the next time, etc.

    Anyways this girl I am seeing now, I'm having the same issue again. We've had sex maybe 8 times or so, and I've only came once. I know its a mental issue but I can't seem to find a consistent solution. I think I find myself paying attention to her and making it good for her more than I think about enjoying it myself. She gets frustrated and thinks it has something to do with her but I really don't think it does.

    Are there any mental tricks or is there anything I can do to circumvent this? It's becoming annoying and after awhile its just like "I really want to cum this time" and then I think about it and it makes it worse.

    Thanks in advance..
     
  2. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    you masturbate too much? its harder for me to cum on top, its much easier on the bottom for me usually
     
  3. Abomb

    Abomb New Member

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    u are still too nervous or you are on depressant medication.

    u just have to focus the entire time on how fucking good everything feels and you will squirt
     
  4. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    yea depression meds will do it.
     
  5. Shadoxity

    Shadoxity New Member

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    i have found if im trying to focus on giving the girl a good time to much it makes it hard for me to cum, so think about what you are focusing on and focus on the whole act as a whole :)

    also could have more foreplay of her doing things with u?
     
  6. ZACKMORRIS

    ZACKMORRIS Active Member

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    Personally, using a condom makes it damn near impossible for me to cum. Even after it's off I can go for a long time. I also find myself more concerned with pleasing the female, than with pleasing myself. I don't think it's a bad thing though.
     
  7. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Stop jerking off for a few days and get in the position that feels the best to you and do that until you cum.
     
  8. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    The more you focus on cumming, the less likely it'll happen. Don't try to control it. Just let your body feel. Enjoy the ride. Give her a good time.
     
  9. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    yea condoms do that too
     
  10. shrew

    shrew OT Supporter

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    dont pull your wire anymore, ONLY come from riding. find a pos that works for you, and work it such that it feels good.
     

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