Long story short my wife has issues with sex because she thinks she was abused as a child by her father. Parents are out of her life now and it's still an issue. We used to have sex on a regular basis, made videos, toys, even would do things like bj driving through lincoln tunnel. Now she has no proof of anything happening and parents and family have all said she's wrong but she believes she is right and no one can tell her otherwise. We have issues outside of sex as well, money, my job, etc...she has been seeing a psych. for 3-4 years now and we even tried couples therapy. My question is are there any women on here or husbands whose wives have had similar issues with being abused as a child and now have no sex drive what so ever? it is so bad that she hides from me when she gets dressed, showers, doesn't want to be seen naked. Can't even talk about sex. I've withdrawn so much that i barely kiss her anymore, or try to be cute like slapping her ass or holding her in bed. I'm really frustrated and she's even forbid me from watching porn and masterbating. I've had to hide it from her and if she ever found out she'd probably leave me. We have a daughter and i've considered leaving, but don't want to seem like a selfish prick. Anyone who has any thoughts about what can be done feel free to chime in. Not really sure where else to put this so hope i get honest answers and not a bunch of wise ass comments.