Difference between hanging out and dating?

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  1. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    This really doesn't have anything to do with a specific real-life situation for me, but something I'm kind of curious to hear different perspectives on (since it seems like for some, if not a lot of people the definition is in a grey area). My question is this:

    What is it that you would define as being the difference between "going on a date" with someone, versus just "hanging out" with someone, where it's just the two of you, both being of opposite genders?

    Part of why I ask is, it seems a lot of people think if you're just friends with someone, you don't go out of your way to be a gentleman about opening doors, etc. whereas for a date/perspective SO you do. I don't think that way -- I'm always a gentleman in that particular regard with ALL women I'm around (That's not saying I'm a pushover, just certain things are programmed into me from my upbringing).

    Other than that, what are the main/major distinctions you'd make between a date and hanging out?
     
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    :rofl: at your reponse and your AV
     
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    part 1 - hanging out (unofficial)
    part 2 - dating (official)
     
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    It's a date when you officially call it a date.
     
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    Hanging out - Friends, no kissing/touching etc
    Dating - Kissing/touching etc, exclusively seeing each other
     
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    Finally a serious/decent reply....

    I suppose that makes sense, but still a bit obscure -- I have female friends that I hug every time I see them, etc. but it's totally platonic. And most first dates really don't involve that much touching and/or kissing; I think that's where the biggest confusion comes in.... :dunno:
     
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    exclusivity.... usually if you date someone, it's implied that you're exclusive.
     
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    no it doesn't
     
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    A girl you hang out with, you might fuck her and have no responsibility to her.

    Someone you are dating should be treated with slightly higher degree of respect, aka, fuck her and call her within the next week or so.
     
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    for me hanging out with a girl is a lot more casual than dating one. i usually start dating girls i may possibly want to get into a relationship with. if i am hanging out with one it usually just means i want someone around to get me off when i dont have much going on with other females. for instance in my old job i would routinely meet lots of females, i would usually find myself going to the bars and hanging out with them, but all the while looking for something more interesting. if i didn't find it then i would just get the girl to give me a ride home, we'd fool around a bit, take pictures and get a bj, then go to sleep.
     
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    Going on a date is something you do with someone you like, hanging out is what you do with someone you are only interested in as a friend. I think what someone calls it will depend on how they feel about the other person.
     
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    I think he meant "that's where your problem lies" not the way you took it. ;) But I do disagree with him. There is nothing wrong at all with waiting.

    I don't think there's really a reason to complicate it. If you've been going out together.. both knowing what the end outcome you are working towards then I think it should eventually be defined. Give it time, there's nothing wrong with that but eventually there's nothing wrong with talking about it. Communication is a good thing. ;)
     
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    Hanging out - Friends, no kissing/touching etc
    Dating - Kissing/touching etc, exclusively seeing each other


    BINGO !
     
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    Dating is not exclusive in my opinion. I mean, when I am dating a girl, I don't go around calling her my girlfriend until she brings up exclusivity, then I concur and neither of us call it dating anymore anyway.
     
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    :werd: dating, hanging out, or my favorite... talking, all mean the same thing to me. :)

    unless we talk about it, we're not exclusive and we're not officially together.

    :dunno:
     
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    ... what about watching a porn with a girl? I know there are some girls that are very open about that sort of thing, but in general, what should this be viewed as?
     
  22. Camron James

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    Umm. I think that belongs in another thread. That really has no relavance to this one. Just my opinion.
     
  23. Cpo64

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    The difference between hanging out and dating is the goal you each have in mind. If you either/both of you are trying to figure out if you want to "be" with each other its dating.

    If there is no goal in mind, and you just enjoy your company, its not
    dating. I have always skipped the dating stage, and gone right from hanging out to being in a relationship. So realy my input might be kinda useless.
     
  24. netkilla

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    if you know shes not gonna kiss you and you know your friends then no your not dating..
     
  25. Two toys

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    the difference is INTENT.

    its a date if you want to get in her pants, its just hanging out if you are just friends. basically also depends on what you call it.
     

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