SRS Did I do something wrong?

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  1. Kerberos

    Kerberos New Member

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    This was like the first time that I tried this dating thing. I know, I'm a nerd :).

    So yeah, this last friday 13th, I arrive home drunk, and there is this girl on MSN that I never actually met but we've been talking for some time now. She's 19 years old, sort of a nerd too, very involved into politics also. SO I just tell her like that "I wanna go see a movie, come with me tomorrow". To my surprise, she agrees and the next morning she logs onto MSN to inquire about this meeting. I'm of course stressed like hell but I do get a plan together and meet her there.

    Now we go see a movie, everything is pretty awkward, we don't talk much and we go back home. The moment I get home, she sends me a message on MSN saying
    "Thanks for the movie. It was very nice meeting you. I'm sorry for the awkwardness... it's just my normal antisocial self :) Anyway, a movie theater is not the best place to know more of a person; might I suggest a coffee next time?
    Take care!
    C."

    The following day, I sent her an e-mail saying: "Your welcome C. It was also nice meeting you. I admit that there was a bit of awkwardness but the good kind of awkwardness. Don't worry about it, just be yourself. I like your suggestion of coffee. Do you have a favourite place around here? I only know the downtown area."

    So, 4 days later, I meet her again, that is last wednesday afternoon at 1. We go to a coffee place and talk for 4 hours. Mostly about politics since she is so interested in politics, as well as school, about ourselves etc. During the whole time, I was too relaxed and I felt that we were going into best friends territory. Then again, we had eye contact the whole time, she sipped her coffee and stayed for a long time, she claims to be awkward and antisocial maybe not totally sure of herself. There were times when there were pauses in our conversation and she didn't seem to appreciate those pauses and would find something else to talk about. At some point, I just spilt all that was left of my coffee onto the table and a bit onto myself. I just laughed, acted cool and pretended as if nothing happened, hehe.


    I haven't seen her since then, either in person or online although that wouldn't be abnormal since even between Saturday and Wednesday she was not online much and rarely is online anyways. So what should I do and if I ask her out again, what should I do with her? Any other suggestions?
     
  2. Jadix

    Jadix The Nice Guy

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    ASK HER OUT AGAIN!! This time pick her up. Too relaxed?? No such thing. She likes you dude, and she wants it to work out. You guys are probably feeling about the same way. Next time you see her, just keep a smile, and tell yourself that you're the man with the master plan. If you are in a conversation and only paying attention to the awkward parts, then you're going to psyche yourself out. Dont worry about it being awkward, dont even consider it. If theres a silent moment, just smile and look at her eyes, then compliment her. Whatever you find attractive about her, tell her that. I cant tell you what to say, because I dont know how you feel...so just be honest. It will sound great to her, and she'll dig it for sure. Good luck man!
     
  3. Jay Pheezy

    Jay Pheezy New Member

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    Nayy haven't really done anything wrong yet. You're going good so far. Keep it up :bigthumb: Get her out again.
     
  4. Kerberos

    Kerberos New Member

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    What should I do for the third date? ANy suggestions?
     
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    You fucked up big time. Someone chose some values used as part of the algorithm that is used to establish your security poorly, and for decades networks you were supposed to protect were totally vulnerable, although it is not known if this vulnerability was ever actually exploited. Lately you've been okay, except for that 2002 buffer overflow bug in the MIT implementation. So keep up the good work, we're starting to trust you again.
     
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    fucking retard?:hsugh:
     
  7. Peyomp

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    :big grin:
     
  8. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Bonjour Sweetie:
    Take her to the Biodome--watch the penguins.
    Go to the Jean Talon Market-Buy her some flowers.
    Window shop on St. Denis & have cafe au lait at some bistro.
    Climb the stairs to the cross. Then go somewhere for hot chocolate.
    Go to the Art Museum.
    Take her skating in the Old Port.
    Browse a bookstore.
    Go to a political rally <yikes>
    Do Crescent Street.
    Go to the Big O...got to the top...
    There are wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy to many choices where you are.
    Good Luck.
     
  9. svetlanalemon

    svetlanalemon A little blood and vomit on the car seat...

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    no you should continue seeing her definetely, in the beginning there is always a bit of uneasiness, and then you grow, and thats when the flowering and blooming begins!

    um... you could hang out at the mall ( go shopping together :) ), go to the pier ( if you have one or live near the beach ) , Rent a movie and watch it together at ones house, browse a bookstore, go to museums,


    soooo many things. you could even repeat these things and as long as youre with someone you like they'll still be fun ( you can repeat the movie thing a COUPLE of times, i sort of feel like movies break the ice, you feel so uninhibited and dazed right after the movie, i dont know!)

    anyway hope things go well, wish you guys the best
     
  10. RoAcH CoAcH

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    this may not be your thing, but take her to the mall.

    atleast this is cool for me, cause the mall here is huge and has a dave and busters for drinks, california pizza kitchen, cheesecake factory, about 3-4 starbucks and another better coffee place, a theater, ice skating, etc.

    you can spend hours there... There's just so many distractions, and so much random shit to point out and talk about.
     
  11. Create

    Create :free at last:

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    LMAO. Nice.
     
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    I won't say it's the right thing for everone but a couple of post-dinner drinks could help lubricate the situation.
     
  13. Kerberos

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    Update: I took her to play pool last friday. We played for about 2 hours. I suck at pool but she was even worst than me so it wasn't too bad. After that, we walked together downtown for at least 3 hours talking mostly about her. I kept asking her about herself and making her talk. The way we were going, we would have walked and talked for like 3 more hours. However, she got a call from her mother who insisted she come back home or something.

    Anyways, I only talked to her again yesterday and she invited me to get tea on Friday (yay) with her and her friends :eek3: . I agreed to go with her, and I asked my friend about it and he said that I am "facing the jury" :eek3:. Is it normal for a girl to want to introduce you to her friends after only 3 dates?
     
  14. teo

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    Yes. She likes you enough to want you to meet her friends. This is a vote of confidence, because if she didn't like you she wouldn't encourage something that would let you into her personal life. Just be yourself and you'll be fine.
     
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    werd
     
  16. Kerberos

    Kerberos New Member

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    From what I remember Kerberos is sensitive to replay attacks and provides weak protection with weak passwords (since the session data is sent to you encrypted with teh password and therefore a dictionary attack on the offline data will get you the session data). Is that correct or did I get an A+ in Network Security by accident?

    (Software Engineering student here)
     
  17. Jadix

    Jadix The Nice Guy

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    Ya dude! Shes showing you off to her friends, always a good sign :naughty:
     
  18. Kerberos

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    SO yeah, I did go with the girl today. Just came back. There was me, the girl, her 17 year old sister and some 28 year old black guy. One of her friend couldn't be there because she hurt her foot or something.

    First of all, the 17 year old sister is friggin hawt!:hsugh: (You didn't hear me say that by the way). She looks exactly like her sister but with more perfect skin and a practiced smile. Also, whenever she was referring to me (to her sister) she would say "your boyfriend".

    The girl herself is hot but is a total nerd. I'm not saying that's bad since I love nerds.

    and the 28 year old guy was loud and a total show off. Meh

    So yeah, dating while having the sister and the loud black guy along isn't particularly great. I don't know how I did: the girl always has a serious demeanor, the sister seemed to approve of me and the black guy well I don't know although he did say that I could give him my CV to apply to where he works.

    The girl did seem to expect a kiss or something when she left but I was too uncomfortable with everyone there to do anything. Bah.
     
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    stop worrying about what everyone else thinks of you. good luck with the grill.
     
  20. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    oh for christsake kiss the girl
    sha la la la la la don't be shy you know you want to guy you gotta ... kiss da girl (laaa laaa)
     
  21. GRocks10

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    Things look to be going good between you and her.. next time you see her, I recommend highly if all goes well especially if the sister is already referring you as the bf shows that both sisters have talked alot about you and its obvious that the girl really likes YOU so plan a big one on her lips next time! Go get her tiger. :)
     

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