Did I do anything wrong?

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  1. evolution

    evolution New Member

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    Female of interest to me was supposed to study and stuff with me today asked me to go eat with her. On the way there she calls and said a mutual friend (another guy) is coming. He's no competition at all- it's very obvious, but the fact that she invited someone else irritated me greatly.

    I've known her for a while....and the dude too. My instinct says she asked him to come because she just wanted more people seeing as how I took her out for dinner on Friday. If she had said she would bring someone else I would not have gone.

    I still wasn't too happy about it because I figured we were making progress. I'm pretty sure she knew I wasn't pleased. Should I forget about another one or am I am uptight bastard? :o
     
  2. Coco Monkey

    Coco Monkey OT Supporter

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    eh, i mean you're trying to make some progress. another guy in the picture, threat or not, is a pain in the ass. i've been in your shoes before, so i know. pissed me off too.

    bottom line tho, i would have more of an open line of communication with this girl, making it MORE clear of your actions. make it more personal. the only way you're gonna get anywhere is by taking some more risks!!!

    bottom line, dont sweat the small stuff, and keep focused. you'll get there. :wiggle:
     
  3. naughtie

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    Sounds like, maybe you are in the friend category to me, my friend
     
  4. The Pikey

    The Pikey You don't know anything, so don't ask me questions

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    I have had that happen to me once. It sucks because your mindset is conversation with her, not her and some 3rd wheel. Maybe she invited him to get his opinion on you. It's hard to figure out someone's motives.
     
  5. laracroft

    laracroft teh croft

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    I agree, maybe she wanted his opinion on you. But I would have felt irritated too, given that she just invited someone else w/out asking you. Play it by ear, see how it goes.:x:
     
  6. evolution

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    Good idea, but i'm cool with the guy- I know he's trying to get back his ex..etc.

    Play it by ear? I raged against her today because I got fed up with her asking me to do things. Basically I said she better stop using me and she got all sad/scared. :hs: I think I straightened her out a bit. She kept on calling me to report what/where she was going all night. :ugh: Shall I drop by her place and have a serious talk?
     
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    Kill the bastard, and feed his kidneys to her
     
  8. The Scientist

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    She probably invited someone else along so they could get a feel of you and to keep her grounded. Maybe she was nervous about hanging out with you and wanted someone to accompany her to make it less awkward. I would think this is an indication that maybe she does like you, or is interested in getting to know you better at the very least. Don't be too uptight about it. I wouldn't think much of it. Just consult with her about what it is that she's interested in or looking for so you will know where to go from there. :)
     
  9. dscallaway69

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    i fail to see what the big deal is with her bringing someone else to have lunch. from my understanding this was not a designated date or anything. i usually like to go with groups or a few people rather than just one person. i think maybe you should just relax a little
     
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    help her to stir the boat, looks like she is all over the place, doesnt know what to do with you... maybe she nervous. :hs:
     
  11. Mogizide

    Mogizide You want antidote, I got the poison.

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    Maybe its just me... but i see this as a FEMALE TEST. I believe that she was testing you to see how you would react to this kind of situation.

    If this were to happen again i'd give her a taste of her own medicine and all but ignore her. Don't be rude.. just make sure she isn't the center of attention. Talk to the other guy... This turns the situation around and you'll find that she will now want your attention that much more...
     

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