SRS devastation v. gf, lies, and cheating

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  1. ba105

    ba105 New Member

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    im so torn right now........

    my resopnse from guy in question regarding my gf's story of how they just talked.

    tears are seeping from my eyes as i work
     
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    *Ambiorix* New Member

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    its the worst feeling. Be strong. Be cool. Break it off with her and never look back. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

    dunno if this helps. Sorry.
     
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    veonake OnT poster, OT lurker

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    I agree for the most part. I'd recommend having this moved to the asylum though. It would also do you well to add some more background information to your story to let us help you better. It's difficult to give advice and support when we just have one e-mail to go on. :hs:
     
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    Emfuser Nuclear Moderator Super Moderator

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    You will receive better help in the asylum.

    Moving... :hs:
     
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    thepornokid New Member

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    Im probablly close to one of the worst people to get advice from about this because Im going through a similar sort of thing, but my suggestion is to drop her and completly forget about her. Stop talking about her, throw away all her pictures, and go out and have fun. Try to never be alone, always be hanging out with someone.

    Thats my advice but I certianly aint a theripist.
     
  6. Bleed

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    So what happened? :hs:
     
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    im so fucked up right now its unbelievable. :wtc:
     
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    BlackBeard Shiver me Timbers

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    is this the same girl that thought she was a bartender but sucked?
     
  9. teo

    teo . => ? => !

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    At least the guy who was party to it was man enough to admit his mistake and make the effort to apologize, even knowing you will probably dislike him for the duration of his life. Give him credit for that.

    As for the girl, forget about her. Cheating and regretting it and making concerted efforts to change is one thing (and sketchy at that) but cheating then lying about it is the lowest of the low. There is no way she can justify this to you, ever; she has treated you horribly and doesn't deserve a second chance. If she loved you as much as you love her, there is no way this would have happened.

    Drop her like yesterday's skivvies - you deserve clean comfort next to your cock.
     
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    ba105 New Member

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    to make everyones relationships seem heaven in comparison.. here is more to my story..


    back in november, this girl was caught cheating on me as well..
    a drunk mistake.

    i was crushed... we talked for ever, her concern and tears were real that she loved me... which i fell for..

    a month later we start dating again, and just when things go good.. this happenes over the easter weekend im gone....

    my concern of my trip, was to even invite her to an easter dinner at my parents even I wouldnt be at... she accepted. she enjoyed the dinner... the morning of her awakening at this guys house...

    she still is looking at me in love.

    how fucked up is this. :wtc:
    we talked days prior to yesterday (when i found out the ultimate truth) about her secret's and lies... she doesnt want to be that person no more.. i made the comment, the help she needs i can no longer give.

    something is inside her making her do things she has no reason for.... she doesnt know why she does such....


    yesterday she spent the day on the phone with her mom, in tears.. only to find out some terrible past... (i can guess molestation/rape) but something is buried...

    NOW looking at me to be there for her when she was there for me this past year, when i lost a friend....

    HOW can she have such demands... she is insane im lead to beleive, trama beyond my knowing... and yet i still love this girl :wtc:
     
  11. Bleed

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    she's trying to manipulate you. she was there for you when your friend passed on.... great....THAT'S WHAT PEOPLE WHO CARE FOR YOU DO AND DON'T EXPECT ANYTHING IN RETURN FOR IT.....she fucked up huge TWICE. if you forgive her and go back YOU have serious problems. she cheated on you once, did it again. and this time she wasn't even going to tell you. remember you found out from a random guy and not her? do you really want to be in a relationship where there is no trust? do you seriously think you will ever be able to trust this girl again.....stop making excuses for her, dump the bitch and move on. you need to find someone who loves you as much as you love them....and "i love you" doesnt mean shit when she's jumping in bed with other guys the second you leave town.
     
  12. Ameter

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    I gotta second this. You've already given her one more chance than you should ever need to, out of love... she takes that and throws it right back in your face. Whether or not she has issues is in the past, fact is, no matter what's happened to you in the past, you're still responsible for you own actions.

    If she does truly care about you, then losing you *might* shock her into re-evaluating her life. Whether this happens or not is moot. Move on, and don't look back.
     

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