desperately need some advice.... confusing girl situation

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  1. laydback

    laydback Active Member

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    im gonna try to make this story as short as possible.... ive been seeing this girl for the past 3 weeks that has a bf... we've been spending quite a bit of time together. now it pretty much goes back to october, we went out like 5 times but she had the same bf back then and at times it was awkward but she eventually decided he deserved a real chance and so we kinda went without talking for a bit... now back to 3 weeks ago she calls me outta the blue and asked me to come with her to a bar with 2 couples.. ive always had a thing for her because shes gorgeous and an awesome girl to be around so i said fuck it and decided to go as a friend.... we ended up ditching the other 2 couples and going to the casino to a martini bar.. we had a bunch of drinks and i ended up dropping her back off at her car at like 4:30am... now we made out a bit but nothing major. i didnt think much of it because we had both been drinking and this is with me knowing damn well she had/has a bf.

    the next day out of nowhere we meet up and chilled for a few hours, no drinking just talking. we made out some more which made me feel a bit better about the night before, because now i know she didnt just kiss me because she was drunk. we've spend even more time together since, last saturday (the one a bit over a week ago) i can over her house and spent 11.5hrs there watching movies, tv, cuddling u know the typical cute shit and i didnt feel like stabbing myself, which is wierd because i generally have a low tolerance of females. On thursday night we went out for drinks and ended up at my place things got hot and heavy but we both stopped for a few different reasons, no big deal, dropped her back off at home real late... then on friday night we just came back to my house, rented a movie and fell asleep in each others arms..

    shes also stole my favorite hat, and my favorite hoodie, and claims she is taking a pair of sweatpants next! In the meantime shes pretty much taken my heart, all I can do is think about her meanwhile there is this bf who is in the picture who is never around, treats her like ass, wont cuddle with her or go out with her in public which i find idiotic because she absolutely amazing and gorgeous and i feel like the luckiest guy every whenever im around her.

    i dont want to give her an ultimatum just yet because im not convinced she knows her full intentions of everything, however ive never met a girl that will take a guys clothes and claim to sleep with it on without really liking a guy and or wanting to be with him..

    should i just give her a bit of space and let her make up her mind with what she wants? i know it sounds bad and im getting into a really bad situation especially if she leaves him for me because people are gonna say she'd end up doing the same to me, but i dont care about that right now, im more concerned with what i should do in the time being to make her mine... will giving her more space make her think i care more? last thing i wanna do is pressure her....

    ok now for the insults and criticism, just let me have it:o
     
  2. Tony Stark

    Tony Stark John McCain has an illegitimate mexican baby

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    cliff notes?
     
  3. Asses Maximus

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    Damn, you are lucky I like to read stuff like that. I would see if she even still has the BF. Just ask. I have quit sugar coating shit when it comes to talking to girls. A lot of them think I am an asshole at times, but I am sick of bein unsure. Ask her about the BF and tell her you have had an amazing time these past few weeks, but you dont think its right do continue to do so with her BF in the picture.
     
  4. Gladiator

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    please dont be the person on the other side, for all you know she cares about him more than you, and you are just another guy to make her feel more loved and cared for when shes not getting it from her current bf. I know how it feels to be cheated on, and it really sucks, it doesnt matter what the reasoning is...just stop thinking about yourself, give her the ultimatum NOW and stop being so god damn SELFISH.
     
  5. KuntryFresh

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    you should prolly kill yourself for a few reasons
    1) she has a bf you jackass
    2) she will cheat on you
    3) you need to get your face beat with a lead pipe
     
  6. froubaby

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    Let her go. Make her get rid of the bf first. I dated a guy in the past. Had a gf. Said he was in the process of breaking up with her. We dated a month or so. The gf wasn't leaving the picture so I confronted her. Found nothing was as bad as he claimed. We didn't speak. 8 months later we were talking and decided to hang out. Within days everything started up with us again. Same story came around. He and the gf were breaking up. Again, it never happened.

    Don't fall for the girl till her bf is truly out of the picture 100%. You never know, she could be playing you. I never thought the guy was playing me. After all, he was my best friend.

    Good luck.
     
  7. laydback

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    well i understand the cheating situation, to date ive actully been completely unable of being faithful to a girl. I'm also used to being the other guy in when im not ina relationship... i tend to be the booty call which I dont mind.... knowing him and her there relationship is unhealthy and me and her continue to see each other. she spends alot more time with me than with him! Im actually going with her to her cheerleading tournament on saturday shes a coach for a HS team and her other coach gave her permission to have me come on the bus with her... And then afterwards were spending the whole day together and then going to the club at the casino afterwards and spending the night in my bed together!!! which will be followed in the am by fresh pancakes ;)

    i dunno.... im kinda content with the sitution for the time being because i like woohing someone, ill probably give it another 2 weeks and see what happens!
     
  8. PocoDiablo

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    You're a big sucker here, and you don't even know it. Her boyfriend is a real man and gets to fuck her any time she wants. You, on the other hand, you only get to take her out, entertain her, maybe buy her drinks, and you get to cuddle & kiss a little, and maybe some "hot action" but no sex. And here you have fallen for her?

    HELLO?

    She's totally using you and you're kissing up to her. What is really happening is she is using you because you're a nice guy, but she'll never leave her man for you. In addition, she's a liar and a cheater, and you think she's some goddess. In fact she is a drama queen and attention whore, and if she were to dump her boyfriend she'd do the exact same thing to you.

    And, of course, when the BF figures out what you are trying to do, I would congratulate him for kicking your ass. You're getting in the middle of a committed relationship that she OBVIOUSLY values otherwise she would have dumped him. He's not nearly as much as asshole as she says he is, either, or she'd dump him.

    In a nutshell, you've been friendzoned with the benefit of entertaining her when no one else will, and you're being teased but won't ever get the sexual relationship you want. If she really wanted you, the 11.5 hours you spent watching movies would have been 11 hours of making porn movies. She's treating you like a friend, like a baby, like the little boy you present to her. If you learn anything from this, you need to understand the reason why this other guy is screwing her and she's not leaving is because he is a stand up guy who does not cheat. You, on the other hand, are clearly a sneaky, lying, cheating, and manipulative guy who - while she is having fun with at the moment - also realizes that she cannot trust you, either. So, realistically, by being a cheater you have effectively removed yourself from the competition of EVER getting with her, or with a hot woman like her, because you are a real womans worst nightmare. No woman wants a cheating guy.

    You *could* of had a chance if you had told her something like "I can't even hang out with you - you've got a man. But if you dump him, you better bet you'll be glad you did. Otherwise, stop complaining about your man."

    And remember, all the time she spends with you is time she does NOT spend making her "asshole" boyfriend happy nor is it time she spends mkaing her relationship better. So she's really the trash of women, in my opinion.

    If you really like her, I can only suggest you pull back hard and tell her that you can't see her because it violates your morals. Tell her that she can't call you unless she's single, and mean it. Then wait and see what happens. If you really are a great man, she will dump him for you! :big grin: If she's a liar, well.... you won't hear from her.

    Bottom line? You have to act a lot more mature to get a great woman, and she's not a great woman.
     

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