FRK Desensitising lotions?

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  1. Impossibles

    Impossibles OT loves cats, hates blacks, loves queers

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    Well, this is my first post in FS. I always thought this forum was more kinky, so I stayed away.

    Anyways, anybody have any experience with desensitising lotions/creams/sprays? Any recommendations?

    I'm in a great relationship with a great girl, and we have an outstanding sex life. But by the time we get to sex after a bunch of foreplay, I'm usually just about to burst and can never last as long as I want to. I've tried (admittedly half heartedly) kegels and trying to gain more control that way, but the results aren't what I want.

    I kind of think some people are just naturally born with more nerve endings in their bits, just like how some people have more taste buds than others. So i don't think I'll ever be able to pound her like a porn star like I know she wants.

    So long story short...any recommendations/advice?

    (I already read the sticky in tha vag)
     
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    naughtie New Member

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    Actually, desensitizing lotion is a great idea!

    I didn't read the sticky in the vag :mamoru:

    Also, you can try learning more about your orgasms and control through masturbation. You can control arousal levels through (1)breathing, (2) faster or slower stroking, (3) by forcing your PC or orgasm muscles to contract or relax and (4) finding the most sensitive 'spots' on your penis and giving special attention to those places with differences in pressure you apply and fast or slow stimulation.

    Learn to do waht feels best and never try to ejaculate. When the feelings are too intense to bear, you dont have to give in to the need to get franting and wild with your stroking. Just relax into it and keep concentraing on making your genitals feel better than they do at the moment. And do it calmly and as gently as possible. Keep each feeling as long as you can.

    Oh, plus... how long have you been with her? You might find that you will have better control once you get more comfortable with her as well. And I am not saying less attracted to her. I am saying that you will be able to concentrate more easily and find that spot in your mind where you can hold it for just that much longer
     
  3. Impossibles

    Impossibles OT loves cats, hates blacks, loves queers

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    5 years. :hs:

    I actually feel like I used to be able to go longer. I think part of that has to do with me not being in as good shape as when we first started having sex. I also just recently remembered a trick I was using way back then:

    Figure out your personal pleasure scale from 1-10. 10 being orgasm, 1 is nothing, 5 is feeling good, 8 is feeling REALLY good. 9 is the point of no return.

    Keep tabs of where you are on the scale, and modify your pace to keep you around a 6-7...going past there gets you in the danger zone.

    I think one of the contributing factors to my problem is she's too good. She gives me head for a long time, continually bringing me to the brink, and strokes me while I'm pleasuring her (don't worry...she gets hers, and then some). By the time sex comes around, I've been getting serviced for 30 minutes or more.
     
  4. Impossibles

    Impossibles OT loves cats, hates blacks, loves queers

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    She's been away for a couple weeks, gets back at the end of next week...so she better watch out.
     
  5. Cobber

    Cobber Wanna touch my bunny hole?

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    I have (in the past) used chloraseptic spray in the tip of a condom ... it has a numbing effect and it tastes like cheries :wiggle:
     
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    aphoric Even if god did exist, it would be necessary to ab

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    you could always pinch teh sack or do something else painful, unless that turns you on, then think of hairy naked men bowling, unless that turns you on, then think of your SO covered in poop, unless that turns you on...
     
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    If you're not too opposed to drugs, you may want to try vicodin. They gave me a lot after knee surgery, I took 3 the next evening, got into bed at 12, starting wackin it as usual, but the next thing I know, it's 3am and I'm still going. (I wouldn't normally go for 3 hours without blowing my load, but being on the vicodin made me lose track of/not care about time.)
    It still felt good, stayed hard, didn't get numb, I just never came while I was on it.
     
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    If your not opposed to condoms, Trojan has a "extended pleasure" package that works well... sometimes almost too well. I usually have to take it off after banging my wife for awhile to keep from going limp. Lotions and creams do work but they usually take 10-15mins before you can insert.

    wow, i wish I didn't know so much about this
     
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    CrudeGT New Member

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    i used Cialis a little while ago, a doc friend of mine hooked me up with a pill. I tokk half of it and was like steel for 6 hours. Almost got pissed because I couldn't get off, but it the best night of my life. I need to get more of that stuff.
     
  10. Impossibles

    Impossibles OT loves cats, hates blacks, loves queers

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    ?? It keeps you from orgasming? I thought it just keeps you hard.

    I wonder if there is any easy way to get some of this.

    How long before did you have to take the pill? It would be fucking fustrating to take it and then she pullls a "I'm not feeling well".
     
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    I took it like maybe 20 minutes before I started the sexin. The great thing was I could get close, we coulld take a minute break, I'd calm down, and then keep going, and I wouldn't loose the erection. We were running out of positions it took so long. (I was also using a condom, that kinda helped). But Yeah, didn't get off and didn't lose the hard-on the entire night.

    Yeah if you take it and she suddenly gets cold feet, you're stuck with not being able to roll over in your sleep, but as soon as you're sure she's game it'll make for an awesome night.
     
  12. PSmitty87

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    I've got a funny story about that shit...Haha, one time I was riding around with my girlfriend and she was just like...hey let's fuck. I didn't happen to have a condom on me, and that's the only way she'll do it, so I stopped by the gas station and all they had were those cheap ass condoms in the quarter machine, where you don't really know what you're getting...

    Anyway, to make a long story short...I had a condom with desensitizing lotion on it, and I took it off after I came, and then she started giving me head...and I guess there was some of that lotion stuff on my dick and it turned her mouth numb for a couple of hours....

    haha random i know...but it was funny at the time...i guess you had to be there...
     
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    :rofl:
     
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    That's funny as shit. Awesome.
     

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