I'm still a virgin and 27 years old (many reasons, long story) but I've been working really hard recently to be more social, reading books, hitting the gym etc... Been to a couple dance clubs (never been to one before) and had good success asking girls to dance, figured that was good practice (very nerve racking the first time though). Anyways all through growing up I never really had problems with INITIAL attraction. I'm 6'0" 185 athletic looking decent enough face, funny and good with conversation. I grew up with 4 sisters so I've always been good at just talking with girls or that type of thing. I've had many oppurtunities with attractive girls where I knew they liked me (3 or 4 even asked me out) but I just chickened out because how scared I am with intimacy. This problem came up again in the dance club, one of the girls seemed really into it and was letting me rub her arms/back etc. I didn't really know what to do so I moved her hair back and started kissing her neck and then I was like "WTF do I do now?" and paniced then backed off, ending the dance shortly afterwards. Now besides all the usual factors like nervousness/shyness etc, the biggest reason I never got intimate was because I was scared what they would think of my deformed chest. One side of my chest is bigger than the other and it's just something I've never really been able to get over or be comfortable with. I can look in the mirror and feel pretty good about myself but as soon as I focus on my chest all confidence is just destroyed. Now I am ok with my shirt off because over the years I've realized people just don't notice. But as soon as anyone actually feels the chest they would feel that the bone sticks out quite a lot on the right. What are some thoughts etc that I can use to get myself over this? It probably didn't help growing up with sisters who would constantly critique guys bodies, talk about their penis size etc, which makes me think girls are very picky. So far all I've come up with is try and get the initial attraction part right and when it gets intimate and she feels my chest just play it off like it's no big deal and see what happens Damn this got long, I can provide pics if you care but hopefully this is just a mental thing and what it actually looks like is not the issue Cliffs: One side of chest is bigger than the other, makes me incredibly afraid of intimacy, how do I get over it?