Define Love

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  1. hom3lesshom3boy

    hom3lesshom3boy New Member

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    My SO recently threw my definition of love out the window. I don't know what love is anymore. OT, how do you define love?
     
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    skitcy uhm title! ok

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    you simply cannot define it.. the best I've ever heard was..

    Giving someone the power to destroy you and trusting they wont.
     
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    i can't tell you what it is, but i can tell you what it isn't
     
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    i don't know... that's an interesting quote, but it would probably better fit something other than love. it just doesn't seem to describe it as a whole for me. there's just a lot more to it than trust
     
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    What isn't love, then?
     
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    hom3lesshom3boy New Member

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    Relationships are bound to have their ups and downs, though :/
     
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    My definition of love is simple yet hard to follow

    To wish the best for someone

    and this definition of love applies to any kind of love
     
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    thats not true.

    i wish the best for everyone except my enemies. i wish the best for a random person i see on the street. i dont love them however.
     
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    eros, philia, agape
     
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    when u can give up everything for her...
    or in brief, if she cheats, u stay with her, thats love but stupid...lol
     
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    i dont speak latin :squint:
     
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    I think about her constantly. I talk with her upwards of 10 hours a day. I think she's absolutely amazing in every possible way. I'd take a bullet for her without any hesitation. I'm happy when she's happy.

    But these are the results of being in love... Being in love itself isn't something you define. For me, it just sort of clicked - "Hey, I love her".

    I still can't define it. I can't tell you what it is. I can't put the feelings into words. I don't think I ever will be able to. I think you get to the point where you realize you love that person, and past that, does it really matter?
     
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    Love is spending 1 day away from her and it feeling like an eternity
     
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    eros is the love u share with a so
    philia is family
    agape is with everyone... i think its been 3 years since Jesuit school..

    hence the definition od love is to wish the best for that person

    if its a random person and u wish them the best then you do have love for thiem you have love for humankind.
     
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    :dunno: I used to think that too, but I don't know what it is anymore :wtc:
     
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    Isn't the greatest test of a relationship is time apart? I'm mostly past that stage, though.
     
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    I don't think it is possible to define it.
     
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    Do you mind elaborating on what happened? If not, it's certainly understandable, but I'm not exactly sure why you're asking.


    Another pat of it, I think, is the more calm and complacent parts of being in love. The fiery passionate parts of it are large, but the sense of being completely at home and at peace when around your SO is a big part of it as well.


    Love has a lot of facets to it.
     
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    I don't want to elaborate because a close friend of hers frequents OT :hs:
     
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    Understandable!

    Well, best of luck with this. Hopefully you'll find the answer you're looking for, whatever it may be.

    But people give/recieve affection differently. Some like verbal affirmations, some physical touch, others gifts, some services, and more still. Not everyone is going to love the same way, either. You have to learn to cater to each other's needs in that regard.

    You might very well love differently than she does, but you both still love each other, even if it isn't exactly the same.
     
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    She doesn't love me by any definition :(
     
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    giapia Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you re

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    love is when daddy sees mommy pee and doesn't think it's gross :o
     

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