Definately falling for the worst girl possible.

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  1. cheifwiggum

    cheifwiggum New Member

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    Yeah I know this is my first post, I did a lot of reading before on this site. Anways I wish in a way some of this was made up but I guarantee you I'm not a "troll" or is any of this fictional.

    First a background about me. I'm in my 20's, college educated, professional. I'm physically fit, consider myself fairly handsome. I grew up in your normal middle class suburbia upbringing. So basically I'm trying to say I'm about as average Joe as you can get.

    I recently got back from military deployment and frankly I was horny. I always had normal relationships with normal girls in my same social class. To make a long story short a few military buddies talked about high end escorts. At first the thought repulsed me but believe you me, I had a bad case of the blue balls. The more I thought about it, paying a few hundred bucks to an attractive female to have sex with for one time didnt' seem that bad. So I went ahead and did that. The girl was a little younger than me but damn, I'll be honest the sex was the best I had in my life. I guess theyre called pros for a reason.

    She seemed like a nice girl and all that jazz but I didnt even bother to remember her fake name, I completed my mission and it was time to move on. Well as I mentioned the sex was so damn unbelievable I just had to see her again so I did a few weeks later.

    Again she's very hospitable (lol). Of course all along I know its because she's an escort and theyre supposed to provide great service. At the end she asks for my number and tells me her real name (she's working for an agency btw). I figure what the hell, and a few days later she actually calls me.

    So gradually we start talking everyday about little things. Eventually she asked me out on a real date outside of work, I took her to coffee and dinner (she paid for the coffee). After a few real dates we had sex again (free this time:drool:).

    My intentions at first were just to get free sex from and be fuck buddies but then of course I start falling for this girl. I can tell she genuinely likes me.

    Every rationale bone in my body is asking wtf is wrong with me. She's a damn hooker (she's boned hundreds of guys, and she's still doing it). I always thought girls with more than 3 partners were slutty whores. She probably obviously has some kind of complex to be working as an escort (found out her father let when she was young and she was abused as a kid).

    So the other week she calls crying saying we shouldn't see each other any more and hangs up with no explanation. I was a little bummed actually I was almost devastated as I really started to have an emotional attachment. I mean the chemistry was just great, it felt like magic. Of course common sense kicks in and tells me it was way wrong from the beginnng and I started to get over it.

    Well she calls back the other day saying she misses me and needs me and the only reason she ended it was because she knew it wouldn't work.

    So I actually hung out with her again the other night and now I'm confused. I definately still have feelings for this girl but it's just so damn wrong and I know I'm going to end up fucking myself over in the end.

    Why did I post this? Well I kind of needed to rant, something I can't exactly call my mom and talk about. Maybe I need reassurance saying I'm not some sicko loser for dating a hooker and then worse falling for her.

    Yeah I considered if she had other motives but I really don't have anything.

    So should I give this a shot (it's better to have loved than not loved at all) Or end this cold turkey knowing itll never work out?

    I know I could go out and get a normal relationship with a normal girl as mentioned before but I realized it's her the one I want (at least right now anyways)
     
  2. Killuminati

    Killuminati New Member

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    I don't know man.... I couldn't be with a hoe like that. Can you handle it?
     
  3. Cthalupa

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    This is a ridiculous mentality to have.

    It sounds like your mental hangups are the reason the relationship wouldn't work out. Get over them - being an escort is just another job. Porn stars, strippers, escorts, etc, are all people too.

    Give things a try. At worst, the relationship won't work out. If you don't give it a try, you won't even have a relationship.
     
  4. Uncle Salty

    Uncle Salty Death

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    I think you should try it. I dated a stripper for 6 months and I know that it isn't the same but it was one of the most fun relationships I have ever been in. Give it a shot
     
  5. Two toys

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    i couldnt date a girl knowing some other dudes were fucking her.

    but hey waybe watch pretty woman?

    get rich and make her stop lol.
     
  6. Peanut3

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    it's not even the fact that she's banging a bunch of dudes but the reason why she got into it in the first place.... a girl who will become an escort or hooker obviously has other mental problems and THAT is what you should be worrying about.
     
  7. cheifwiggum

    cheifwiggum New Member

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    Well her dad is in prison and her mom makes very little supporting her 4 siblings, all the money she's making she sends it to them. Trust me she doesn't live the lavish lifestyle at all.

    I try to be mature in relationships but I'll admit it, I can get jealous easily (can't control the way we feel right?).

    Here's the weird thing, if she wasn't an escort, the thought of her doing a bunch of other guys would just drive me insane. Since I knew what she does from the get go, that thought hasn't eaten away at me like I thought it would. Don't get me wrong, it definitely bothers the hell out of me.

    It could totally be just an infatuation thing but yeah I guess the relationship is worth seeing where it heads. I'll just be careful not to let my guard down and take it slow. If anything I'm sure itll be a life experience.

    She actually is a "free spirit" no bs type of girl with a great personality. I guess how girls like the bad boy types...she has the rebel mysterious side to her which I find attractive.
     
  8. Cthalupa

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    This is a HUGE myth propagated by ignorant people.

    There are quite a few reasons people would become a hooker, or an escort - and you have to remember, an escort is a lot different than some random hooker you pick up off the street.

    But without getting into the hooker vs escort debate, you have to realize, people can fall on hard times without a skillset that can provide for themselves or their family, so they fall to what other things they have at their disposal. Others just realize that it is good money, and don't view sex as some sacred cow.
     
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    You again. :rolleyes:
     
  10. NCS

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    honestly if you can get over the hangup about her being an escort, things are cool.

    however most escorts arent well rounded mentally and emotionally stable girls. so thats where you real problems are going to come from
     
  11. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Congrats on the sexual chemistry
     
  12. mrchina

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    If I were in your situation, I'd back off. She's an escort. I can't have my chick having sex with anyone else but me...

    She has more guy friends than you had all throughout high school and college, collectively.

    http://www.identitytheory.com/insight/bruns9.html
     
  13. Yahdude

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    I wouldn't want to be in your shoes. Tough decision. I kinda had the same thing happen with a stripper I met while out of town for work, if she didn't have a kid she would have moved in with me for sure. It was hard...good luck.

    Flip a coin.
     
  14. Jay487

    Jay487 What's Life If You Ain't Enjoyin' It?

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    I'm almost in the same position. She's not a call girl or anything like that, but she still talks to mad guys and still lives with her ex bf. shes def. out of my league and im still not sure why shes talking to me. she said from day 1 she probably isnt looking for a relationship since she just ended one, and i said fine. unfortunatly, i think i really like her, and theres no way I can just end it even though part of me says to :(

    im still hanging out with her, but it kills me that i think about her when im not with her and wonder what shes doing, knowing well probably never date. I have no advice for you, not trying to hijack your thread or anything, just saying im kinda in your shoes, and looking for responses as well.
     
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    I'm kinda repeating here, but if you think you're into her, give it a try. Just remember what you're in, and don't be surprised if things turn out how your gut reaction tells you. Also, you know what she's like from the get-go. That means you can't be 2 months out telling her how she has to quit doing this and it's just not right and she's a whore. You know what her job is, you know what she does. You have to decide if you can deal with it and not hang it over her head.

    I would just be very cautious the first little while here, guard yourself a bit, use protection, and probably get a few random STD tests in there, just to make sure. I would probably ask her to get some too. Regardless of whether you're using protection, these are still things you should worry about.
     

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