SRS Deciding wether or not to go to college

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  1. michaele36

    michaele36 New Member

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    I'm deciding wether or not to go to college. My parents said they'll pay for my gas and insurance if i go and get good grades. i've never done good in high school but i think a big part of it was i didn't get along with alot of people in school.

    see i look at it this way.

    pros of college

    won't have to work the shitty part time job i work at.
    wont have to pay for gas.
    will meet some nice girls even though i wont talk to them.
    Might do better in life.

    cons of college.

    i might fail out and it would waste my parents money.
    i will fell socailly akward like i did in high school
    i also have this thing where i have to tripple check my writing because i think i messed up so i think that could be a problem with going to school.
    I also have trouble focusing and getting motivated.
     
  2. BradUF

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    You are going to land in all prep classes, so just take it slow. Part of that deal do you have to take full load or just 2-3 classes?
     
  3. Abomb

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    its a confidence thing. just from reading your post you are obviously intelligent.

    man the fuck up and have confidence in yourself. you can do it no problem.

    be poor or go to college and get your degree. think about it. you know you want to go to college.
     
  4. svetlanalemon

    svetlanalemon A little blood and vomit on the car seat...

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    if worse goes to worse you can always see a therapist about the low self-esteem :dunno:

    therapist or no therapist, youve just got to realize that you cant trust all the thoughts in your head, and that being negative about it wont get you anywhere. if you've got a will, use it. Ignore your doubt, and consciously and constantly move above it
     
  5. Cerridwen

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    Do you really want to be stuck in some lower paying job that you don't like because you didn't go to college? Do you want to be in your mid20s (like me!) just starting college and kicking yourself in the ass for not doing it when you were younger?
    Or do you possibly want a better career/one that you actually enjoy doing and get paid a decent wage?
    What type of college are you thinking of (tech or university)? I honestly can't think of one negative thing about having a college degree ;)
     
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    #1 rule for someone like you: Go to the TA tutoring sessions. It'll give you the extra attention it seems you need to stay on top of your schoolwork. It could also lead to a study group for your really tough subjects. Studying in a group, assuming people stay focussed, is much more productive than going at it alone.

    #2 rule for someone like you: Stay involved. There's a *ton* of clubs and such at every college. Pick one and stick with it. Pick one that lets you apply what you learn from the study-side. It'll give you the social interaction and a close group of friends. Without some kind of social release you will have a very hard time.

    I had a bit of a motivational last-minute type of thing going on for a bit. One weekend I got everything done. I then resolved to finish every assignment the day I got it even if it meant skipping social dates or staying up a bit late. Bigger projects are started the day I get them (At least brainstorm some ideas *and* schedule time in regular intervals to work on it).

    When you're getting stuff done early it leaves you without the mental weight of knowing you still have stuff to do. Never, ever go out drinking unless your schoolwork is complete. That's going to kill Friday night. Live with it, finish your work Friday night/Saturday, and go out Saturday nights.

    Sunday is backwards day. Give your brain a break and get your body active. Excercise is key to keeping your energy level high enough to be successful.

    Keep organized. If you're not already tech savvy use paper, just like those calendar/planners from JH & HS. Keep it simple.

    No relationships to start with. Keep it at a 'friends with benefits' level until you have the 1337 5|<|115 to balance things.

    Go to college. It's one of the best investments you'll ever make.
     
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  7. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    college is HARDLY comparable to high school. one part being, no one HAS to be there. the people there are there to better themselves. college isnt nearly as 'clicky' as HS. alot of the people are more mature, yet, can still cut loose when appropriate.

    if you would like, you should take a year off, and move out of your parents house, and see how real life is, and how much is sucks without a college education. then you will quickly decide to get your ass to college.

    :bigthumb:
     
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    I'm afraid I won't be able to do it.
    I'm afraid people won't like me.
    I'm afraid my work isn't good enough.
    I don't know how good it feels like to be on top of my schoolwork.

    It's all in your head, man. The regret you'll feel from not trying is far worse than what you'll feel if you give it 100% and don't make it. You have to try.
     
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    thanks for all your advise. I think I'm going to go to college. Its community by the way. You think even going to a two year community college will get me a better job?
     
  11. BradUF

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    Hell yeah. Just with two years you start at like 34k I think?
     
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    Yes. It's worth it. At the beginning of your second year start looking to bump into a 4-year if things are going well.

    You've got a good mind. Most people meander through life without making a list of pro's & con's. Most men wouldn't ask for others' opinions. You're showing us good things :)

    Did you click my link above?
    Have you thought about a major?
     
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    It seems that you're insecurities around people hurt the most. Does the community college offer online classes? This might be a double-edged sowrd due to the fact that you said that you "have trouble focusing and getting motivated".
     
  14. Cerridwen

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    I missed what he said he'd be going for, but even having an Associates Degree does not guarantee you a specific starting wage. There are a lot of factors involved in that ;)
     
  15. Jadix

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    Awesome advice. If only I could stick to it!
     
  16. chica&buddies

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    imo, high school graduates should take a year off before they start college. after i graduated from high school, i went to a local college. i graduated from high school in the top 10% of my class, national honor society, etc. etc... i went to college, and i thought my shit didn't stink. :rofl: boy was i wrong. college is no joke...

    my point? if you don't feel you're ready, then don't go. i ended up being interviewed for a promotion at my job, and when i was offered the position, i took it... in a heartbeat. i was managing people 20+ years older than i was at the time. i had just turned 19. in addition to the promotion, i decided to get another part-time job in order to have something to do with my "free time." :ugh: (hehe, after that, i had no free time).

    i then had to talk to my parents about my choice to drop out of college. of course they were furious with me. i had always been a great student, and i had terrific grades. i have always had a drive to succeed. they didn't think i'd go back, but they were wrong ;). the job allowed me to save money, buy a brand new car, and move 1500 miles away... where i currently attend college and am in the #1 program, in the US, for my major: forensic science.

    that break taught me a lot of things! the two dead-end jobs were horrible. i can't even begin to fathom how many brain cells i lost doing jobs day in and out that didn't require me to think. :o

    on the other hand, it made me appreciate college for the opportunity it gave me. i strive hard to make good grades... not for my parents, but for myself. since the money comes out of my own pocket, it makes me realize that i better bust my ass, or i'm throwing money down the drain. my major is hard as crap, and i spend a lot of time studying and sacrificing things that may be more fun ;).

    don't go to college just because you feel "it's the next step/best thing." do it because you're willing to put your heart and soul in it and succeed. you can do ANYTHING you set your mind to. take time and dissect yourself as a human being. take the chance to figure out the real you, and you'll have [should] your answer :)
     
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    thank you. believe it or not the only thing that stops me from being distracted is weed.(not trying to sound stupid but better then any add meds i've taken.) I dont know what major i want. I'm just sick of getting bitched at at my part time job for stupid shit.
     
  18. BradUF

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    Weed is alot safer too. But anyway, if you just start out by taking 2 classes you will be find. You will have plenty of time to get all of yoru work done. Hell if you did 2 classes all the way through you would finish in 2 years provided you took summer classes, but even if you did not its better to finish 4 years later then not at all.
     
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    You should also consider the military as an option as well. The Marine Corp is the best confidence builder known to man. They'll put a boot in your ass and mold you into a better person.
     
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    I think once you start college you will see how much better your life can be. I didn't do much of any jobs through highschool, but worked for a painting company over the summer of my freshman year, the work absolutely sucked, it was backbreaking, unrewarding, and horrible money, going back to college I saw how much more potential there is after you get a degree.

    Like what was said earlier, colleges have TONS of tools to help you succeed, the college I go to has free 1 on 1 tutoring whenever you need it, study groups, and professors (in my experience) are always willing to help you out. It's not like people want to see you fail, people want to help you.

    Also, regarding your dislike of high school; I was the same way. I was always kind of an outsider in that I didn't really belong to any cliques so I always felt like I didn't belong, I went to college and found that people are so much more open. It doesn't matter how you were in the past or what group you belong too, people aren't cocky assholes, they are all just other people like you, there because they want to be.
     
  21. michaele36

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    how many hours a day would you have to go to get a general education degree aka the two year one?
     
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    Awww, I just call it like I see it /smile

    I have no problem with this but I've seen it really kill people's motivation. As long as you're excercising also you should be ok.

    The beauty of a BA is that it doesn't matter what you study. Everything will open up a new tier of jobs. Now, in a two year it matters a bit more.

    Sound harsh? I have two friends who made it into the Corp and another in the Army. Not one of them regrets their decision. All three are better off for the experience from what I've seen.

    If you fail in college it's because you lacked the motivation to find appropriate help, let alone learn. Help is everywhere and it's always free.

    I'll guess and say 60 credit hours. 1 credit hour is: one hour of class per week, per semester. Most students carry 13-15 credit hours per semester. Count on about one hour of study time per hour of class.
     
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    Holy Collegiate Batman. Get your ass your ass to college. Nowadays you need an education to get somewhere in life, ya sure, you can get lucky and land something 1/2 decent without a diploma, but who wants to flip burgers/sweep floors and have no benefits for the rest of their lives? So, you feel awkward, don't intigrate easily, yadda, yadda. Well Bucko, you aren't the only one out there that feels that way. You are obviously smart, can analyze things well and moreover, you have the the God given talent of looking at both sides of the issue. Give college a try. Sure it is daunting. Most things in life are. I am sure you'll make friends. Just relax. Guaranteed the first couple of months are going to be a killer. But, once you get in sync with stuff you'll be fine. And think about this, after you get your diploma in whatever it is that you are interested in (and please study something you have passion for), you can look around, try different stuff if you want, but you will always have your education to fall back on.College/Uni years are some the best years you'll ever have. Your parents have offerred support, so why not just do it? You have problems in college, come see us. Get involved with college life...joining clubs that interest you...take full advantage of the situation. Apply yourself, do the very best that you can do. Then on Graduation Day, you can give yourself a pat on the back, jump up and down and say "Hey, I did it!" and "I did it myself!" If that is not a confidence booster I don't know what is.
     
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    ^^^^^^^

    thanks. Its just right now I'm in school and I SHOULD be doing work but instead i'm on here talking to you guys. I have the work in the background but I just keep avoiding it. I cant stay focused on it.:spank:
     
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    ^^^^^^^

    thanks. Its just right now I'm in school and I SHOULD be doing work but instead i'm on here talking to you guys. I have the work in the background but I just keep avoiding it. I cant stay focused on it.:spank:
     

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