dear vag, how do i become less needy/clingy? thanks.

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  1. N D S

    N D S you're like salsa, thick and chunky

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    Long story short I'm a pretty busy guy but when it comes down and I'm done with work, school, and my hobbies I like to come back to hang out with my gf. Unfortunately, that means I rely too much on my girlfriend for happyness and need her attention and stuff to be happy. What steps should I take to start changing this?
     
  2. Decease

    Decease New Member

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    Hit the gym or find new hobbies.
     
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    idesofmarch New Member

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    define some of your personal long term and short term goals and don't let your reliance on other people get in the way of them
     
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    Ago816 New Member

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    Hang out with your buddies more often. Find things to keep your mind busy rather than feel like you have to be with her 24/7.
     
  5. N D S

    N D S you're like salsa, thick and chunky

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    long term goals always involve me having a family so its easy for me to get tunnel vision with the gf. :( I am very busy and do exercise daily too, but I guess i have fallen off that wagon recently with the lack of time in my schedule.
     
  6. Repus

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    treat her like crap, she will love it
     
  7. Viper

    Viper OT Supporter

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    Start making deeper connections with other people.

    "Staying busy" isn't the solution. Clingy behavior is just you craving deeper interactions with people. You can't depend on just one person for all your emotional needs, so find other people with which you can develop deeper relationships with.

    That doesn't mean other women, either. I mean friendships.
     
  8. N D S

    N D S you're like salsa, thick and chunky

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    hahah not a problem anymore she broke up with me :(
     
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    poz New Member

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    lol :sad2:
     
  10. RichieHemingway

    RichieHemingway New Member

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    Maybe you'll find a girl who feels the same.


    I know a ton of clingy girls that want to do everything with their boyfriend.
     
  11. peoplescar

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    she broke up with you? do you have a story? something isn't right here :rofl:
     
  12. PcH

    PcH Guest

    Well..that was quick. :hs:

    When I'm with a girl I can come off as clingy too. I get real passionate about loving a woman. Like others said, spending time with other people and focusing on your personal goals will help methinks.
     
  13. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    GET TO THE CHOPPER!
     
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    Fate13 New Member

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    I have similar issues... and this thread helped me if nothing else. :/
     
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    THoC New Member

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    lmao.... im not laughing at the TS's situation but the sudden post about the break up.

    that was out of nowhere.
     
  16. chlywly

    chlywly Active Member

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    :werd: Golden advice right there.
     
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    can't lose what you never had
     
  18. N D S

    N D S you're like salsa, thick and chunky

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    haha i've only posted 2 threads on the vag and both of them i have a random post of my gf at the time breaking up with me. I guess I only post here when i know there's a serious problem.

    Long story short she wants to do her own thing and not have responsibilities of a relationship. It was her first relationship so :shrug: I didn't really help as whenever we went out [drinking] I wanted to hang out with her and she wanted to do her own thing and hang out with her friends.
     
  19. Rendezv0us

    Rendezv0us New Member

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    Bummer dude, sounds like perhaps you 2 weren't overly compatible.

    Chin up <:/
     

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