SRS Dealing with hearing loss

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  1. bimmer318

    bimmer318 I'm out of applesauce

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    Well one thing that really bothers me is my hearing loss.

    I just do not wear my hearing aids because of that period of my life in grade 9... Well let's start in elementary school. I was diagnosed with hearing loss as I was about 11 years old. I had those behind-the ear aids in elementary school and was made fun of a whole lot. People called me deaf, etc. It was rough times but I also got to skip part of class and ended up having my required high shcool credit for graduation waived.

    Then constant nagging to my parents, they spent more money and got me those in-the ear ones, which just cover the ear canal-It can be seen from behind in a certain angle but not from the front. Then I went to high school. What happened was I was made fun of once. and that pretty much led me to stop wearing them. (You know those periods in grade 9.........) Anyway through high school I was not very sociable and I didn't feel the need to since I had one friend there that I hung around with all the time. I also do not remember struggling hearing things although I could not hear people whispering and talking quietly. I do not recall that happen during high school..

    When I went to university the problem became more obvious since I tried to make friends and couldn't. I don't know what was the matter because I always wanted to have engaging conversations about school, current events.. whatever. Then I realized that the problem was in communication. If I didn't hear what someone said the first time, I would ask them again, and then again. And When I asked them twice I still didn't hear them, I pretended that I understood them because I didn't want to look like an idiot in front of them.. As a result I looked like even more of an idiot when I answered a question wrong. eg - in a fast food place

    "What kind of dressing do you want?"
    "I don't know" or "Yeah"

    Not only that, but I have to, usually, watch what people are saying by looking at their mouths. Which is good and helps me have good eye contact/overcome shyness. But as a result, sometimes I have to guess what they asked, because I did not quite catch it and too embarrased to ask it again. This results in a 15 second pause before I answer, which makes both parties uncomfortable.

    I do tell lots of people, who talk quietly, or whisper. that I have a hearing problem. Even if I pull through and still say, on the 3rd time of people repeating themselves, "I really can't hear you. Can you repeat yourself again?" People think that I am some sort of a retard and they are not comfortable with me.

    I really do want to wear hearing aids now, I tried my old ones, and they do not work. A hearing specialist said it would be a better choice to buy new ones. There are even smaller and digital ones. I will have to wait another year to get them though.

    It kinda makes me sad that I did not meet anyone worthwhile during school. No one had the same interests as me (in my program at least)... and I was always preoccupied with school work, to have any social life. I am not a party person, and never beetn to parties or bars. I am 19 and only have one friend who is kinda distancing away from me after 5 years... I think now is the time to start going to parties and stuff though, since It's the only way I can meet anyone.

    hearing loss + vision loss + dislocated jaw =
    :naughty:
     
  2. johan

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    Get new hearing aids asap. Isn't there a way you can get them sooner than next year? Seems like a long time to wait.

    Secondly, parties are fine and all that, but for one who's not naturally at home in that environment (as you describe yourself) then don't forget to check out campus clubs / activities, etc. Having common interests will be more successful for you than simply showing up at a party.

    I doubt anyone will laugh at you now that you're in college, so you don't need to worry about that anymore.

    Lastly, pay attention to your studies. You can get the last laugh in at those guys from Grade 9 as you drive past them in the Macdonalds drive thru and they're staring at you from the takeout window.

    Smile and toss em a shiny quarter for a tip.
     
  3. dave steel

    dave steel My Kung Fu is the best.

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    bimmer318, stay on top of this. Get the hearing gear that you need now. You have learned many things from what you've suffered. It's time to put that M5 in 6th. gear.

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  4. bimmer318

    bimmer318 I'm out of applesauce

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    Dave Steel: And why not 7th Gear? :big grin:

    I kept denying that the hearing aids actually helped me. I honestly, thinking back, do not remember how it was different with or without them. I guess I got that one friend that I had, because I there were no boundaries in communication. Now the hard blow hit me that I did not get anyone's contact information at school. Now that it's over I find it difficult to realize how it is even possible... It's almost as if I don't want to belive it.

    Yeah, I'm gonna have an appointment with the hearing guy next week. Hopefully everything goes smooth.
     
  5. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    You know bimmer your post strikes me. At this moment the neigbhours acros my street are getting a new front yard, and they are using one of these babies http://www.westfriesarchief.nl/nieuws2004/20041210 heien .JPG to strenghten the soil underneath. You wouldn't believe how much i wished to be deaf,when that thing wakens me up from my sleep again :wtc: , even my cat gets upset. So you see for what one person is a burden could be a relief for another. I know its not a choise, but as much problems you can have with trying to switch on and still not hearing people, it can be also a burden to be un-able to switch off your ears, and be brutally awoken in the morning by a monsterous machine. :hsd:
     
  6. brolli

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    hey man, one of the coolest guys i know is deaf. Just don't associate with people who make fun of you b/c of the hearing aids... its not your fault.
     
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    The people who make fun of people who have hearing loss are also the ones who make fun of fat people, blind people etc, and most of them end up at McDonalds.

    I'm partially deaf myself, wear one hearing aid, apart from going clubbing when I dont need it, I've been fine with it. Its all about confidence man. If you have it people generally dont tend to care about your problems.

    And I've hooked up with over 20 chicks and got loads of friends this past year. If I can do it (with 70 percent+ loss) you sure as hell can too. :big grin: If you need someone to talk to I'm here for you as I can identify with alot of what you said regarding communication and problems.

    Remember though, alot of deaf people can't talk, and rely on sign language. They're the disadvantaged ones, whilst the ones who can speak (and I thank my parents for teaching me thins) generally get by OK with life - sure some are bitter and only associate with deaf groups, but personally I feel that if you get out there and chat to people they just wont care about the deafness.

    Plus being able to laugh it off is great too. I know this guy called Matt who always takes the piss out of my hearing, but I do the same with his fatness, and we have a great laugh about it. Sometimes I do isolate myself but I've never had any problems chatting to people with them on or off.

    People generally dont care after they reach an age of say, 18+. I reckon its just the fear of the people not being accepted that causes the problems.
     
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