SRS Dating someone who is bi-polar

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  1. Drewski

    Drewski New Member

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    I just recently started somebody who told me she was bi-polar. I've never dated or even known somebody who told me they were bi-polar.

    What can I expect? Whats the best way to handle it?
     
  2. johan

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    Just make sure she stays on the meds. That's about all you can or should do.

    If she's not on meds, because they're "evil" or she doesn't believe in them...well, it's not going to be a fun ride.
     
  3. BlazinBlazer Guy

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    Brace yourself.... I think I feel a bout of drama comming on....
     
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    Run.
     
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    Agreed. If she's treated, then there shouldn't be a problem.
     
  6. Budha

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    I know this sounds terrible, but if she's not freakin gorgous or the best lay you've ever had, GET AWAY NOW! Prepare for huge mood swings, and drama drama drama...! I've dated a girl like that before and one of my old friends was that way. They can put a lot of stress on you and the relationships, and they are very fickle and impulsive when it comes to anything in life.
     
  7. Peyomp

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    Could it be that she is not the same as the girl you dated?
     
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    I have a buddy who is bi-polar (and he drinks a lot as well)...he is up and down and in and out and all around. He takes lithium. Somedays he is in a good mood and soaring, and there are other days when he just crashes and is not fun to be around. I think tho, if he did not swill a 6-pack everyday he would be much more stable. I think there are worse things other than dating someone who is bi-polar. I agree totally with what Johan had to say.
     
  9. dave steel

    dave steel My Kung Fu is the best.

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    What can you expect...High highs and low lows. It might be the perfect storm, as it's debatable how well meds work on the bi-polor disorder.
     
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    The operative word being "shouldn't".

    I once dated, and married a bi-polar... :hsugh:
     
  11. svetlanalemon

    svetlanalemon A little blood and vomit on the car seat...

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    tell her not to intake any caffeine.
    it blocks adenosine receptors, it may be good to also to keep yourself in check, make sure you remind yourself that your feelings are important, so if you feel it doesnt work out, dont give yourself excuses that the relationship is working "just cause shes bipolar"

    otherwise just have fun :)
     
  12. civicmon

    civicmon got all my game from the streets of california.

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    :werd: as long as she's on her medication it should be fine.

    Anyone who drinks heavily gets moodswings regardless of lithium intake, btw.
     
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    Basically mood swings.
     
  14. DadLife

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    I dont rember the statics but a very high number of americans have some form of chemical imbalance....manic depresant and bipolar go hand in hand....I have never been diagnosed but my mom, dad and 2 brothers are bi-polar and based off of how they are I am as well.

    I have extream highs and extream lows but when I get down I usually surround myself with firends, xanax and alchohol I know it sounds bad but it makes me feel better......A while back though the xanax got WAY out of control I was eating 100 bars a week!!! I could wake up and eat 4 bars for breakfast and go to work and function as normal just a little relaxed....

    Wow I could go on forever about this shit but /rant sorry to ramble I am bored at work. Oh and BTW I do not take anything for it nor does any one in my family they found other ways to deal with it IE God but that is not my cup of tea.
     
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    Just how bad is it really to be bi-polar, on lithium and swill beer every night to the point of excess? Wouldn't that defeat the purpose of taking lithium? I know so very lilttle about lithium and what does and does mix with it.
     
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    Manic depression and bipolar disorder is the same thing BTW.
     
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    lick wid nit wit Official OT Oracle

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    Is lithium all he is taking? Lithium is a mood stabilizer but doesn't work for everyone. There are other mood stabilizers out there....d octors are even using schizophrenia meds and anti-psychotics in some patients now.

    Um, I can't imagine him drinking a 6 pack every day is helping. There's a specific reason one should not drink while taking any sort of psychiatric med.
     
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    " know this sounds terrible, but if she's not freakin gorgous or the best lay you've ever had, GET AWAY NOW! Prepare for huge mood swings, and drama drama drama...! I've dated a girl like that before and one of my old friends was that way. They can put a lot of stress on you and the relationships, and they are very fickle and impulsive when it comes to anything in life."

    +1

    Why even go there? Not worth all the trouble and hassle. Date normal women.
     
  19. Arsenal4rs

    Arsenal4rs BEES!!! MUTHERFUCKIN BEES!!!

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    best advice you could ever listen to.

    Trust me.
     
  20. Pioneer

    Pioneer Are you annoyed? You will be.

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    I know a brother and sister who are bi-polar.

    He is a complete freak but I never knew she was until someone told me.
     
  21. Drewski

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    Thanks guys for all the info guys.

    Here a little update.

    We’ve hung out a couple of more times since the original post. She’s been great trying to help me understand. She told me how she was only recently diagnosed (2 years ago) and how she’s been trying to work through it, including takin meds religiously. She had her dad pass away at the beginning of this year, but from the sounds of it, she made it through relatively well considering everything.

    I’m not gonna run away, because we do get along really well. Just going to take it VERY slow.
     
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    best thing to do is to get out before the shit hits the fan
     
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    :) I applaud you for sticking by her.

    I do not know why it is, but it seems as tho when people hear the words "mental disorder" they run for the hills, as if it was catchy or something. In my opinion, having a "mental issue" be it bi-polar, depression, or anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of and I am tired of (generalizing here) the general uninformed public thinking that's it is a real terrible thing. People have diabetes, cancer, MS, etc and people do not run away from them...why should a person be alienated just because they have a mental disorder? Sick is sick. I know a lot of people who have "mental issues" and are just so afraid that someone will find out because they will be ostracized, and it is just not fair to them to have to deal with that fear as well as their illness. It is time the general public smartened up and became more educated about mental illness.

    ....Climbing off my soapbox now:)

    ~Mom
     
  24. cls

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    Agreed.

    It may be unfair to generalize about all people with bi-polar, because many bi-polar people are happy and lead very succesful lives.

    However, the girl I dated... constant drama, suicide threats, felt like I was walking on eggshells all the time, constantly worried that I would say something that would set off a fight, I didn't trust her (she cheated on all her past b/f's as I found out later), got emotionally invested way too fast with I love you's/talk of marriage, drinking/money problems,etc etc etc

    Worst relationship ever.
     
  25. Pioneer

    Pioneer Are you annoyed? You will be.

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    I'm not holding my breath for that.
     

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