Dating Sites anyone try them?

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  1. BradUF

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    I just sign up for match.com for the hell of it and I dont see how it really works. It looks like you just pay for a myspace in a way. Also it only found like 20 matches and all of them are 60% and below. Anyone have any success with them?
     
  2. PhoenixRising

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    I've been on and still am on several dating type sites. As far as sucess? I've met one woman through them but the chemistry wasn't there in person. My advice would be to stay away from ones that charge a fee (most are free to join, like match.com but charge if you want to read your mail or send mail to other members etc.). There are several that are pretty good and completely free, like Plenty of Fish, Ok Cupid, and Just Say Hi. I would go there first and post an honest profile and go from there. One other point to mention is don't go there with the expectation of necessarily meeting the love of your life, as I do have several on-line friends that I have met via these sites, and just like any place else you would go looking for a date it's still pot luck.
     
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    They are a nightmare, they are the epitome of over-saturated 'princess' syndrome women, who have difficulty meeting anyone in real-life and thus rely on the ridiculous amount of attention they receive online. The issue is, each woman will get spammed with 1000's of emails from men, they can't give any of them their real attention. It becomes a superficial meat market, people lie and act arrogant. Quite frankly it takes something away from the beauty of meeting someone randomly/in-person.

    Go out into the world my friend!

    I have met women online, they have always turned out to be major flakes, even if at first it did not seem so, and by the way I did the best screening possible.
     
  4. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    It's hit and miss just like anything else. I know people who met someone online years ago and are still with them. I know people who have had nothing, but bad luck.

    The pay sites tend to filter out people who are looking for something more casual. So while the free sites are good, they tend to have a higher percentage of people who are just "dating" and not ready to settle down.

    I don't think the percentage of crazy women is higher online than it is in real life. You just have to pay attention to how they look and what they say in their profile. Talk to them a bit first. Of course you'll still end up with disappointments, but that is just part of dating.

    Also I don't consider dating sites as a replacement for real life socializing. I don't understand why people think "go out and meet people instead" as if it is one or the other. You can do both thereby increasing your odds of finding someone.
     
  5. Mystery Guest

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    I did Yahoo, wasn't too bad. If you are good with writing it's like shooting fish in a barrel.
     
  6. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    my ex - coworker met his wife on a dating site.

    she had 2 kids already, they now have 2 more kids.


    he was a fuckin goofy looking loser. he said he dated a few other girls online before her. i asked how many he actually met in person and he said, oh just her.
     
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    You can get lucky, but in general dating sites fucking suck. The women on them are all the women who for one reason or another are not getting as many dates as they want by meeting men in real life. And frankly most of those reasons are going to be things you really want to avoid.

    I've gotten consistent dates with two women in real life in the past month; I've NEVER had any woman from a dating website show up to a meeting place in the past two years. Do the math.
     
  8. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    :dunno: met some pretty good girls from them. No personal connection though.

    well current girl but the online portion was basically, "hey wanna hangout tonight at the rack ?" pure randomness, might as well have just met her there kind of thing.
     
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    I met one girl off myspace the same way, and she wasn't a flake... but that's not a *dating* site, per se.

    The sites like okcupid, match, and especially eharmony... waste.
     
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    i've got a good friend who's trying them, but he's kinda a chump and out to sea too often. he doesn't seem to have much success, even though he's a great guy.


    not my style.
     
  11. demosnat

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    I have a girlfriend who uses match ( I think, it might be e-harmony) and she's met a couple decent guys on it. Nothing that went anywhere, but she had a nice date or two.
    can't really think of a reason not to give it a shot :dunno:
     
  12. squid

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    I've been on a ton and had no luck. Well I did really well on one but then they went bankrupt and disappeared. The problem is you pay and you get unlimited access, so women get inundated with guys--they all take the machine gun approach, see who responds, then decide who they actually want to talk to from that group. So women ignore most of the emails they get. The one site I had luck on you paid per message, so they'd actually read your shit, and I did well.

    On most sites its the same as the real world--if you're good looking, photogenic, tall, and funny, you'll do well. Which begs the point of looking online in the first place. If you have luck there, just go outside, it's cheaper. If you don't, you won't online either, so just go masturbate and play Halo.
     
  13. Redneck Shinobi

    Redneck Shinobi Well Jules, the funny thing about my back is that

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    My current gf messaged me on OKcupid and we've been going out for a year and a few months with no issues recently lol. Last major fight we had was last valentines day if you'd believe it LOL... I joined for the quizes and she came out of the blue, love her to death. So I am biased to say yes, I've tried them lol. Long winded yes that was lol.
     
  14. rwdftw

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    not worth it...look at it this way.

    For the woman you see on the street you are competing for the date against people within that particular area, within that particular time. You go online and you are competing with guys within a 50 mile radius.

    The big problem there, is the women get flooded with messages, my sister got like 1000 messages in 2 weeks. And she isn't even that hot(6-7). With so many guys messaging, do you honestly think the women read every profile? No it boils down to the basic looks filter. And even if you pass that, then you get to have the scrutiny of everything you wrote in your profile.

    But thats not the worst part, with all this messaging back and forth, you essentially go on that first date. But not really, so when you actually show up in person, you don't get to use the freebies when the conversation stalls, asking what she does etc, because you already found out by reading her profile and messaging back and forth. So that will probably mean a bad first date, and with billions of new guys messaging her every day, she is going to keep waiting for that prince charming, that every woman on the internet is looking for. A millionaire, who looks like Brad Pitt, who worships the ground she walks on and is willing to shower her with gifts.

    And lets not forget the myspace angles. In real life you see exactly how she looks on her average day most likely. On the net, its almost a guarantee that you got the 1 picture that doesn't make her look like a cow
     
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    Not anymore. There's this asian STRAIGHT pornstar who had this mini-bio and used Adult Friend Finder to fuck lots of women. Eventually, he was so successful he stopped meeting them IRL and got requests to act in scenes with girls who were just starting out. now, he makes a shit ton of money off multiple sites he owns. His name's Rick Lee.

    So after hearing about that guy, i went and looked for myself. I dont think AFF at least, is as good as it used to be.
     
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    I met my current girlfriend via a free profile site, kind of like a mini myspace.

    I've tried date-matching sites and they are based on some of the most bullshit behavioral psychology on god's green earth.

    Not worth the money when everyone, EVERYONE, is on myspace...
     
  17. LS1>

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    i joined match and two other sites per a friend in NY that dates off them all the time. I realize now it works for her because shes a women. For me as a man way to many of us on there to have any luck. The women gets 1000s of emails. I get girls I would never date in a million years.
     
  18. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    IF you are going to do it, get that first meeting ASAP.

    Otherwise you end up wasting a shitload of time, people tend to have a different personality online and you can sit there with nothing to really say because you know everything about them already.
     
  19. BradUF

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    Exactly.. I think this is what happen with this one girl.
     
  20. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    qft
     
  21. BornToFly

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    huh? how do you date without meeting?
     
  22. vintage82

    vintage82 we fuck you

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    I moved back home after 3 years away and all my college friends had moved away/grown apart/etc. I signed up for Match.com so that I would at least meet people via dating while I re-established my social network in a new town.

    I dated a different guy every night for months, it felt like, with no repeats. It was a lot of fun though. I blew this one guy off for two weeks. He was so hot ... too hot for me. I thought he must've been a player or something, looking for a one night stand. I swore I was done dating for awhile one Friday night. Saturday morning, the guy I'd been blowing off had messaged me again. I agreed "Ok, this one last date tonight and then ... I'M DONE."

    We celebrate our one-year anniversary on Sunday. :love:

    SO ... I think they are an amazing method for meeting people if you're shy or busy or tired of the club setting. That being said, however, I never expected to meet my husband online. You just never know ... ;)
     
  23. rwdftw

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    once again the female experience differs from the male experience
     
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    . x 10000000

    its gotta be at least a 10:1 ratio
     
  25. Snuffit

    Snuffit still have alot of learning to do

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    I met my fiance on a dating site. but i do agree, for guys they arnt as effective. I was lucky, she messaged me for some reason ( i didnt send out many messages, just wrote a good profile and upped some pictures)
    for those wondering the site is called dotmate.com
     

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