Im seeing a woman thats 3yrs older than me which is no big deal, but she has a child, which SHOULDNT be a big deal, but it is, and for one reason only, the child's father. He's much like my own biological father never coming around till its convienient for him, and it really upsets her(understandably so). Whenever she has problems with him she gets really closed off thinkin that she doesn't wanna talk to me when shes in a bad mood with him bc she doesn't wanna affect our new relationship negatively, which I can completely understand, but hopw do I let her know that im here for her if she needs to talk or vent?? I sent her a text but didn't get any reply and i dont want to keep texting or callin only to irritate her further. I care for her deeply and dont want to ruin what we have(its my greatest fear). I haven't met her child yet since we are still so new(will be a month come tomm night) and I understand that as well, I don't want to disrupt the childs life in the event that we dont make it. I want to see her so much, but between work and school and no frequent babysitter its hard to see her at all. I understand alot of her feelings which is great but I dont know wat to DO about it. I want to support her and let her know that im here for her, but i dont want to make it look like im rushing to get in her business. This is a very delicate situation, and one that i've never been in before. This is very new to me, she is basically everything i ever begged God for and i dont wanna do anything to fuck it up, im pretty sure im not bc we talk on the phone every night for at least a couple hrs after she gets off work and text each other in the mornings and stuff it also doesnt help that i am an EXTREMELY analytic person. I will churn over something i said or did for hrs playing out possiible reactions and scenarios. I also admitted a lot of feelings to her in a time of weakness when things were really bad with a loved ones health this last week, and she seemed fine with that, she sent me a text as soon as she woke up so im gonna stop typing this book and seek help hahaha edit: I try to make light of things when im nervous and believe me i am NERVOUS i couldnt sleep at all last night, i felt like puking i felt like running, i felt like doing anything to get rid of nervous energy but couldnt so i lay there with this bottled up energy after we got off the phone(it was already late).