dating a girl who is pregnant

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  1. untoastytoast

    untoastytoast The Glory Days

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    what is everyone's thoughts on this? there is a girl who i've known for a while who is now pregnant and i'm just now starting to realize that i'm really attracted to her.

    now i've read someplace that you shouldn't try to get into relationships with people who are going through major life changes, and i would consider giving birth to your first child one of these, but i guess i'd like to hear other people opinions.

    oh and as far as i know, there are no problems with the father of the child, he is out of the picture.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Sounds like a nightmare to be completely honest.

    How many months is she?
     
  3. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Why is the father of the child OUT of the picture?

    Dating a girl during pregnancy is going to be the hardest thing for two reasons.

    One, her hormonal balance is going to be off. Shes going to be having a lot of stress, mentally and physically, and the obvious of her body going through changes. This affects you in a couple ways, mostly being is she is going to grow ATTACHED to you, so if things do go 'sour' its going to be that much harder to leave.

    Secondly, WHY is the father out the picture? What happened with him? One night stand? Theres a bunch of under lying issues/questions you need to figure out before jumping into something like this.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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  5. untoastytoast

    untoastytoast The Glory Days

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    as far as i know, the father and her dated for a while and i'm assuming (key word here) that he didn't want to have anything to do with her or the responsibility of having a kid and just left. And also she is 8 months right now.

    and just to provide some more background, i've known this girl for about two years, I went to a treatment center with her and we've both been clean/sober in aa/na for around two years. i guess i know that she is going to have issues with herself and with the father, but one of the reasons i'm attracted to her is because i feel like she has a way to deal with the issues in a healthy manner.
     
  6. XaPU!M

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    WTF. Don't date prego chicks unless you are the father :nono:


    If you are attracted to her, then remain friends, and see if you can work something out in the future (like a year or two from now).

    She's about to have a crying shit factory which won't leave even the slightest bit of time for you if she's at least a 1/2 decent mother.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Have you talked to your sponsor and other recovering addicts?

    Not to sound judgemental, but do you (like many of us) find yourself drawn towards chaotic relationships? A pregnant woman is like a poster child for drama. Hormonal drama, baby daddy drama, baby drama, new parent drama, family drama, unable to work and provide for herself drama, etc. The list goes on. Seems to me like you're inviting a lot of chaos into your life. I'd talk to some other addicts about this and definitely your sponsor.
     
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    This is probably a very good idea, because without "closure" on your feelings your attraction isn't going to go anywhere and drive you nuts. But this idea can probably show you why it isn't a good idea and will help you get "closure" on your feelings. More so then we can at least
     
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    this.

    gut feeling tells me its a bad idea. she has a lot to figure out in her life this next year. if you want to be a part of it, its probably best to be a part of it as a friend, not a boyfriend.
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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  11. untoastytoast

    untoastytoast The Glory Days

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    thank you for the advice you guys, i appreciate it. yeah i'm just going to put this on hold, patience will be used here
     
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    At least you can cum inside of her and not worry about it

    :dunno:
     
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    IDK BRO :hsugh:

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    amirite?
     
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    Find someone else.............PERIOD!
     
  16. Havsie

    Havsie When I die, bury me inside the Pepsi 1893 store OT Supporter

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    this sounds like the beginning of a bad porno
     
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    I would never do it...but Heidi Klum was preggo when her and Seal got together...that turned out pretty well. :rofl:

    Maybe just hold out until after the baby is born and keep being a friend to her and see how things develop?
     
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    Stay friends a little bit longer and then witness the birth. After you see what really happens down there (There's a chance that it'll just be really gross but it could be like the planet Vulcan getting sicked into that singularity in reverse mixed with goatse and tubgirl) I don't think you'll have a problem staying just friends.
     
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    i have a buddy thats going through this,at first he was okay with the idea but once the baby was born it hit him like a brick he realize hes not ready for that kind of responsiblity yet.he wants to leave her but we told him that right now its not a good idea for her emotional sake.rather just slowly ease off the relationship.
     
  20. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    OUCH! Yeah please don't even think about dating her! last thing she needs now is more confusion and heartbreak!
     
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    Guz200sx The man who does more than he is paid for will soo

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    That right there says it all
     
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    :rofl::rofl::rofl:

    Yeah :coolugh:
     

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