Dating a girl a friend had sex with..

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  1. Tre003

    Tre003 OT Supporter

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    I met this girl online, we've been talking on the phone and everything seems great... we start talking about our hangouts and after some more conversation I find out she goes to one of my buddys favorite bars. Turns out they went out once and slept together.. she says she was drunk and regrets it, but I cant get over the fact that she's slept with a close friend of mine... she does not understand it, but I tried to explain to her how close I am with my friends.. it would be like her dating a guy that slept with her sister. She really wants to meet up.. I guess she's pretty into me even though we've never met and I explained to her that we may not even click in person and that I wanted to remain friends, but I cant see myself seriously dating her. She got me to agree to two dates, if I still can't get past it, then we're just going to be friends. Am I out of line for not wanting to date her?
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    If you can't get over it then move on :dunno: She doesn't deserve to waste any time getting into a relationship with a guy who can't get over the fact that she slept with a friend once long before she even knew you existed.

    Let her go and find another girl who hasn't slept with your friends (if that's what bothers you).

    It's the simple answer, whether you want to accept it or not is the real issue.
     
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    :rofl:

    "To all the Virgins out there - Thanks for nothing."

    Listen to iwishyouwerebeer, she has a great grasp on the situation.
     
  4. Tre003

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    She usually does..

    I just didnt know if I'm the only one that feels like this
     
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    I can understand that it might be weird to you, just because a close friend slept with her and you might get into a relationship with her. I would at least give it a shot though. Who knows, you might actually click and have a good time, at that point I'm sure it won't bother you anymore
     
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    :werd: wtf.

    get over it man
     
  7. Kinks

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    As life goes on you will find it harder and harder to meet people that have absolutely no history with anyone that you have ever, or will ever, know.

    Yeah, it's a bit weird.. but if you can't get past it prepare to spend a lot of time being single.
     
  8. MattThom01

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    Simple. Make a decision. Either pursue or don't pursue. No need to make a thread about it, because frankly, we don't care.
     
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    this is the whole purpose of the vag... why must you troll this place 24/7?
     
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    I think iwishyouwerebeer is right. If you can't get over it then move on.
     
  11. ERabbit

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    it took me a while and a couple girls to really figure out the past is the past theres nothing you can do to change it, today and the future is what your working for, what someone did before you is not really your business, but make the most of the "now"

    you could be possibly passing up a great girl
     
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    Just be careful she isn't trying to hook up with you to get back at your friend. chicks have done that stuff before.
     
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    Maybe you should move on to another forum then! The point of the vag is for discussions like this. :ugh:
     
  14. Tre003

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    No.. why would that make a difference? Just a close friend.
     
  15. iwishyouwerebeer

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    :uh: :mamoru: this isn't the main forum.
     
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    No, are you retarded?

    I figured this was a more valid thread than the typical "OMG I caught my g/f in bed with another guy, do you think she's cheating on me???"

    To everyone that has provided valid advice/help - thanks.
     
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    Not at all. I'm not sure why you seem so concerned with the size of my penis.. maybe you just want to find out for yourself?
     
  18. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Alright boys, cut the shit.
     
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    To follow up my previous post...I meant that "I didn't care' in the sense of it didn't seem like a big deal to make a thread about.

    It's not a horrible ethic dilemma....it's a simple, simple thing to deal with.

    Op needs to ask himself "Does this bother me enough to prevent me from taking her seriously in a romantic sense?" If the answer is "yes", then he should move on. If the answer is "no", he should set up a second date.

    It's completely his decision...what we think DOES NOT MATTER.

    I see it as being as simple as "Do I want to eat pie for dessert tonight?"

    It's a yes or no question, what is there to discuss really?
     
  20. MattThom01

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    Could you please post examples of when I am trolling 24/7? I am genuinely curious.
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Skip that. Let's all move on :squint:
     
  22. jonno

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    i would be more concerned with her sleeping with a guy she met at a bar the first night rather than WHO it is
     
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    oh, and what bar in providence? lolz. i was at hell on friday night
     
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    chicks who do this a lot are not keepers imo
     
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    Wait? Went out? As in a date? She got drunk on a date?

    That's a bullshit excuse whenever I hear women say that... "I was drunk, but I regret it" Drunk or not she knew exactly what she was doing, and she is only saying she regrets it because that is what she thinks you want to hear.

    However so what that she slept with him before she met you. If you're worried about what your friend would say you can always tell him that she says you're better in bed then he was. That'll shut him up.
     

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