I don't even know why I'm asking this, I know what the answer is going to be and I know what I have to do. I guess just talking about it maybe makes it better? Anyway, my GF and I have been together for 1.5 years, give or take a month or so. I care for her a lot but I don't think I'm in love with her anymore. I know I love her as a friend but lately I've just not really cared about anything. Certain things have come to light that make me realize I don't want to be with her the rest of my life. For one, she wants to move back to Florida when she's done here and I HATE Florida, I 100% want to move back to the southwest. Two, she started smoking again. She did when we first started seeing each other but we weren't living together then; she quit about a year ago but recently started up again. I have no desire at all to kiss her. Three, my mom has recently developed breast cancer and it's made me really realize that I don't want to live anywhere but close to back home. She hates the desert. Then there's a bunch of little shit that annoys me like... * She doesn't keep the room clean. Her side of it still has boxes, from when we moved, all over the place. * She's gained some weight. She's by no means fat but when she wears certain outfits now it just doesn't look good. That combined with she pretty much refuses to work out or eat well and yeah... (I'm a f'n health/workout nut...) * When we're at home all we really do is watch movies, or she reads and I watch movies/games, or she sleeps. We don't really even talk all that much anymore when we're alone. * We have sex rarely... I think in the past month, maybe month and 1/2, we've had sex twice. It doesn't help that it's in the same old boring ways too (i've said something about this, she started to cry...). I just... know what I need to do, I just don't want to lose her as a friend. Plus it's another couple months before our lease is up and I don't want to fuck one of us over by the other moving out (so timing definitely isn't right). So I guess what I'm asking is... are there any tips or tricks or anything to break up with someone but remain friends? For the record I've stayed friends with 0 of my Ex-GF's.