crying during sex

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  1. bobbarker70

    bobbarker70 New Member

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    ive been dating a girl for like 5 months. at first the sex was amazing. as its gone along it got kinda boring. the other day we were at it and she pushes me away and starts crying. she said her last bf forced her to have sex once and idk something reminded her of it. im kinda frustrated and that doesnt help. i knwo she loves me and i lvo her but its frustrating.

    i love her alot ya know and i dont want it to go sour. any suggestions?
     
  2. James Bond

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    humm happend 2 me once, but she refused to have sex in a car because of her last b.f. girls are weird
     
  3. purplebeast

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    Patience, patience, patience.


    Dont be forceful in any sexual way. Allow her to feel confortable in the bedroom. And see if she can pint point what set her off and make sure u dont do it again.
     
  4. Cerridwen

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    I absolutely agree.
    It will take a lot of patience and time for her to get over this, you have to decide if it is worth waiting for or not.
     
  5. kuno

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    ooh.. tough one. I wouldn't have any intercourse with her again until she initiates it or is more comfortable with telling you what happened. guaranteed she'll feel the same way if you push it and you'll end up being like the guy that reminded her
     
  6. lauren

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    its not sex, its one action that occured during sex. figgure the trigger, and work around it.
     
  7. Mugwump

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    Have you tried different positions?
     
  8. Zak8022

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    i agree with the others that is probably wasnt something to do directly with the sex... but rather something in particular that reminded her of her ex (and she obviously still has some things she needs to get over from that still).

    if you're serious about it, jsut talk to her about it, and find out what happened from her. as always communication is key.
     
  9. James Bond

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    Whats that spose 2 mean? :ugh2:
     
  10. Hegemon

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    Figure out (on your own, preferably) what you do to remind her of this guy, and cut it out. The last thing you want is her associating that shit with you.
     
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    ^^^^ what he said, and if she still have problems, dump her.
     
  12. lauren

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    then again, has your relationship been boring lately? ive known more then one girl to do this tactic to mix things up a bit :dunno:
     
  13. purplebeast

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    WTF??!!
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    How does crying, runing a night of sex, and putting crazy toughts into her BF that he reminds her of her ex, help to mix things up?
     
  14. okita1

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  15. lauren

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    borderline personality disorder to a lesser extent. girls like to fix things. some will go out of their way to creat a situation, or a problem, just so they can fix it.
     
  16. dirtysouthboy

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    I've had super emotional girls cry during sex. Sex is a very emotional thing for a girl to do so sometimes things happen.
     
  17. kuno

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    my ex ex ex ex ex ex..ex cried one time when we were talking dirty and i called her a biotch.. lol we were taping it too.. don't remember if i got it on tape or not.
     
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    :rofl: :rofl:
     
  19. scaryice

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    How about you talk your girlfriend into getting some much needed therapy? Because she obviously still has not gotten over what happened to her (rape?). It's only going to keep affecting her life until she deals with it.
     

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