MIL Convincing Parents that I'm Joining

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  1. Adam922

    Adam922 New Member

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    Ok, first post on OT. Been a lurker for a long time.
    I'm 19 years old and I've wanted to be a marine since my step-dad was commissioned back in '96. I just graduated high school this summer and I'm in community college right now.
    Problem is, I am burnt out from school and I want to take a break from school and come back when I'm ready. I'm making the decision to enlist in the Marines. I've brought up reserves and such a few times to my parents and they say hell no every time. They want me to stick out college and then do what I want later.
    How can I convince them that this is what I want and get them to support me?
    I respect their opinions and I'm not just going to walk out on them, so I'd rather get them to support me as best I can.
    Thanks.
     
  2. teabagn

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    If that is what you really want to do you need to sit them down and have a serious conversation with them. Staying in school for a little while isn't a bad idea, you can go in with higher rank, or even commission in your self.
     
  3. Adam922

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    I know staying in school isn't a bad idea. But as this point in my life, I dont think its the right idea for me. I feel like my heart really isn't in college right now, and I want to come back when I'm ready.
     
  4. Julius

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    And you'll be wishing you were in college if you enlist.

    Finish school.
     
  5. Jyokker

    Jyokker The trouser snake is very aggressive. It will corn

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    Your step-dad is a marine and he is telling you not to join?
     
  6. evan2

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    Well to be honest you are an adult and can do what you want....they will have to learn to accept it.
     
  7. thekinggovernor

    thekinggovernor OT Supporter

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    my dad did as well :dunno:
     
  8. Jyokker

    Jyokker The trouser snake is very aggressive. It will corn

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    did you listen?
     
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    kill your parents
     
  10. Adam922

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    As harsh as this sounds, thanks.
    Kind of puts in perspective that if I can't tell them what's up, I shouldn't bother.
     
  11. thekinggovernor

    thekinggovernor OT Supporter

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    of course not, he was a POG that swung with the wing. So I joined the Infantry :bowdown:
     
  12. Off

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    Its your decision, you're a man now.

    Its not about tough shit being easy for you, its about doing tough shit despite being scared. That being said make sure you know what you're getting into and make sure you're ready to give 100%.
     
  13. Jyokker

    Jyokker The trouser snake is very aggressive. It will corn

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    :rofl::rofl:
     
  14. thekinggovernor

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    whats even funnier is that he and his best friend enlisted at the same time on the buddy program. 20 years later, my dad is out his friend is now a Master Sgt. The ball comes around, I will have to post the picture, the 21 year old lance corporal (e-3) has a bigger stack than the Master Sgt. :mamoru:
     
  15. Jyokker

    Jyokker The trouser snake is very aggressive. It will corn

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    That's how it is in the AF for enlisted guys who fly. They may be operating a radar scope in the air and get a ribbon. Those guys are stacked at E-3 as well. The majority of it is fruit salad, rather than individual recognition. Medals aren't handed out as much. Medals count towards promotion, ribbons don't.
     
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    scottiemac It's time to shoot some hot dogs!

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    are they paying for your college?
     
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    The grass is always greener on the other side. I don't regret joining up. I just wish I would have gone to college first. I think you might wish you would have finished college after you join. If I were you I would stay in school.
     
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    The Air Force hands out ribbons like candy. Good Conduct, Basic Training, NCO PME Graduate, Longevity Service Award...You get a Commendation Medal everytime you PCS.
     
  19. evan2

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    No you do not and this is a big error among the Air Force. Every 3 years you are at one base you can be put up for a medal, not just a commendation as that is for some SSgts and is the medal of choice for a TSgt.

    Most people are lazy so you can be put in for one when you do pcs.

    Or if you are on a deployment you can get one.

    The AF doesnt really give them away, technically you earn them...I find them pointless as now I just have a heavy rack sitting on my chest when I wear blues.

    I only care about the ones that are worth points.
     
  20. Adam922

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    So I went to talk to the recruiter last night. Scored an 80 on the AFQT. I'm taking the ASVAB on 25 Nov, and they hope to get me to MEPS and one stop shop me there before Christmas, so I should have a boot camp date before the end of the summer.
    Recruiter told me to wait till I have a date and then break it to my parents so that if they kick me out of the house, I'll have a ship date and I can find somewhere to stay till I leave...
     
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    :rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

    recruiters are such scumbags
     
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    :rofl:
    gotta love recruiters

    if you ever want to be commissioned look into the Naval Academy programs before you turn 22 IIRC

    you finish your degree at a top university and become commissioned in the Marine Corps

    goodluck
     
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    How far are you into college??? Getting your school out of the way would benefit you when you join. If you REALLY want to join, you need to pull them into a room and just say what is going on. What do you think they will say if you told them you just went to go talk to a recruiter??? Try and talk to your parents and maybe have them come in to the recruiter station to talk to them
     
  24. Adam922

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    Im in my first semester of college. And I think the biggest thing Im afraid of is being kicked out of the house before my ship out date. I don't want to be couch surfing until i ship out.
     
  25. Casino

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    Try your best to explain why you are doing it, and why it will be such a good thing for you. Nothing else you can do really. My parents never understood and disowned me. Good luck.
     

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