I've liked this guy for ages. I used to borrow his old and worn out sweater and wear it for weeks and eventually after about a year well a bit more than a year we went out. But i got soo nervous that i messed up. And even thought it was obvious that he liked me i was convinced that he wasnt and i guess he noticed so he told me flat out that he liked me and he wanted me to know. Which in my head was suppose to make things better. But it didnt. instead it made me more nervous and more paranoid... later on after we broke up i realized it was because him saying that was scary for me. I didnt expect it. And i didnt know how to handle it. And i dunno i guess feeling like he didnt like me made me feel like i was in control somehow. Cause after i knew that he liked me and he started making the moves...its like im not the one in control. im not making the moves. So i have a control issue and being the girl its a problem because guys usually want to make the first move. How do i fix this control thing?