SRS Considering giving up a full scholarship to school...

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  1. dazed

    dazed New Member

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    Last April, I signed a letter of intent with Virgnia Tech to play college baseball and attend the University on full athletic scholarship. I love the sport, and it is my life, and before this week, I couldn't see myself not playing in some way.

    Recently, my father has been diagnosed with colon cancer. It's been a really rough time for my family, and next week I leave for training camp, only to see them again in November.

    In the last few days, I've been considering quitting baseball and going to a local community college to be closer to my family in time of need. It's not something I want to do, but I'm starting to think it's something I need to do to benefit my family who has given me so much. I wouldn't be able to play baseball at the CC either. It's just leaving the game.

    Am I selfish for still wanting to leave them and play baseball?

    Cliffs: Considering giving up a full scholarship to school to be closer to dying father and family
     
  2. tris

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    I think your family would want you to succeed. Can't you be like all the other great sports stars who "did it for __________" ? Who/What's your "______________"?

    Follow your passion, my friend, it will only lead you to great things.
     
  3. AmCo

    AmCo Haters goin' Hate

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    No its not selfish. But you might want to talk to your family about it before making any choices.
     
  4. Team503

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    I think you're best off discussing this with your family. The desire you have is NOT selfish.

    Things to think about when you talk it over with them: Is your father terminal? If so, how long are they saying he has? How far away will you be, and will weekend trips home be practical? What do you serve to lose by doing this, and what do you hope to gain? How does your family feel about it?
     
  5. Toasty

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    I think your heart is in the right place. We all have only one father and you do not want a life of regret if you had not made choices that will allow you to spend more time with him while he is here.

    However, it may be your father's biggest dream to watch his son be successful and happy. It may hurt him even more to think that he might be responsible for stopping you just short of the experiences you might be having taking part in this athletic scholarship.

    Talk to him.
     
  6. dave steel

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    I bet your dad would flip out if you told him this. Go with the scholarship do the best you can. (Honor your dad and excel.) I'm sure your parents were instrumental on the path towards this scholarship, I bet they were at a lot of your games and provided plenty of support along the way. I think it could crush your dad if you were to bail now. Do your best at baseball and be disciplined academically, as this would be the best that you could give him now. When your at school call him, e-mail him, and send him cards. Go with the scholarship and this stuff too and you'll make your dad glad in you.
     
  7. civicmon

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    go for the scholarship man... it sucks that your far from your family but dude, VA tech is only like 5 hrs away driving...
     
  8. Darketernal

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    I disagree you should follow your dreams , even your dad wants that. It would probably hurt him more to know that his own status quo would effect your future in such a way that he (against his will) would be a block on the road towards your future happyness. Your not being selfish at all by wanting to live your dreams. And if it was the other way around , wouldn't you want the best for your kids? Its the same thing, live your dreams and make them come true. If this is what you always wanted to do, then i encourage you not to let this situation make you go down, but to continue into becoming that what you always wanted to be.
     
  9. johan

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    Take the full scholarship and visit your dad on weekends.

    You and your dad both know that the best legacy for him to leave, is a successful, happy, well-educated son. Go to VT on the full scholarship. Make him proud of you. Don't fuck around, and don't waste your time there. Work hard. Study.

    Sitting at his bedside in the evenings and days at the local community college isn't really helping anyone.

    A little part of you will resent it (admit it. it's true). And he will feel guilty for robbing you of your chance at something more than the town you grew up in.

    If sitting by his bed could CURE him, I would say do it. But we both know that's not the case.

    So it's basically just a little act of palliative kindness on your part. Right?

    In which case, you can approximate the same benefit by visiting him every other weekend and calling him regularly. A lot of dorms have high-speed internet now. Set up a webcam in your dorm room and do a video chat with you, him and your mom three times a week.

    If he's the great dad that he must be, for you to even entertain this notion, then he would want what's best for you. And we both know, that that is for you to go to university on the full ticket.

    Discuss this with your dad. Discuss with the dignity and respect and care that you have shown in your post. You sound like a good son. Your dad knows it.

    Good luck in school.


    PS. Keep in mind that hearing tales of your exploits will probably lift his spirits.

    If I were bedridden with colon cancer, I know I would be glowing with pride when I hear about my son ripping the other teams to shreds on the baseball diamond. I would not want him sitting by the bed, watching his future idle away.
     
  10. Dr. Funk

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    Well I was going to answer, but the chick in the pink basically summed it all up perfectly.

    :dunno:
     
  11. dazed

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    Here's another dillemma.

    I was drafted by the Washington Nationals to play minor league ball, now I could forgo college and do this and collect a paycheck to support my family fairly well.

    I want to go to college, but with the bills racking up plus house payments, things get expensive.

    Thanks guys.
     
  12. johan

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    Get your degree. Don't sacrifice it for minor league ball.

    As I see it, there are three likely scenarios:

    1 If you're really good, you'll still be good in college.
    You'll have a degree, and you can play college ball, and scouts from the majors will notice you anyway. Win-win situation.

    2 If you're just ok, then college becomes all the more important.
    You'll have gotten a free uni education, been an athletic star on campus (read: GIRLS!) and you can while away your future days smoking expensive Cubans, and regaling your incredibly bored children about the "good old days" at VT playing baseball.

    3 If you suck, then college is paramount.
    You can tell your wife stories about the college days when you pitched ball (you actually played outfield) and she'll smile very cutely and say "yes, dear" because she knows you only played outfield, but she's such a fuckin awesome wife she doesn't correct you and gently supports your little fantasy.


    Any way you slice it, you need college. The only exception is if you're so good, you're like the next Cal Ripken Jr or something. In that case....go play ball.

    PS. Your parents can take care of their bills themselves. You go to school, son.
     
  13. johan

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    oh yeah, and I can't resist:

    When he was a kid, he'd be up at five
    Take shots till eight, make the thing drive
    Out after school, back on ice
    That was his life, he was gonna play in the Big League
    The Big League

    Not many ways out of this cold northern town
    You work in the mill and get laid in the ground
    If you're gonna jump it will be with the game
    Real fast and tough is the only clear lane to the Big League

    My boy's gonna play in the Big League
    My boy's gonna turn some heads
    My boy's gonna play in the Big League
    My boy's gonna knock 'em dead
    The Big League

    All the right moves when he turned eighteen
    Scholarship and school on a big U.S. team
    Out with his girl near Lake McClean
    Hit a truck doing seventy in the wrong lane
    To the Big League

    My boy's gonna play in the Big League
    My boy's gonna turn some heads
    My boy's gonna play in the Big League
    My boy's gonna knock 'em dead

    Never can tell what might come down
    Never can tell how much you get
    Just don't know, no you never can tell

    Sometimes at night I can hear the ice crack
    It sounds like thunder and it rips through my back
    Sometimes in the morning I still hear the sound
    Ice meets metal...
    "Can't you drive me down to the Big League?"

    My boy's gonna play in the Big League
    My boy's gonna turn some heads
    My boy's gonna play in the Big League
    My boy's gonna knock 'em dead

    Never can tell what might come down
    Never can tell when you might check out
    Just don't know, no you never can tell
    So do right to others like you do to yourself
    In the Big League
     
  14. JordanClarkson

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    Unless they get a bonus, most minor leaguers make hardly enough to survive. The fans in Lancaster make potluck dinners for the Jethawks team every game because they can barely afford to eat.

    Going to college is the right decision, but you're going to have to talk to your dad about it. You're going to have to hear from him that it's ok for you to go. Otherwise you could face a lot of emotional troubles when you're away. Even if you're gone you can still call him up. You can still e-mail him. Plus you can visit during the holidays.
     
  15. civicmon

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    A couple of people I went to HS with got drafted and signed and were making a pittance. They got Ok bonuses but had substandard accomidations and shit.

    Go to college... if baseball as a career doesn't pan out, at least you'll have a degree to fall back on. On top of that, you may drastically improve your skills and get drafted higher.
     
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    "Win one for the Gipper."
     
  17. dazed

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    Thanks everyone. I had a long talk with my dad last night and here's the conclusion we came to.

    1) I will be attending Virginia Tech in the fall and playing college baseball.
    2) If I was good enough to get drafted out of HS, I should (with some hard work) get drafted out of college
    3) I'm flying home every other weekend and will be setting up that webcam

    Thanks guys, :wavey:
     
  18. johan

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    Good decision.
     
  19. Bleed

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    I would go straight to pro and give it 2 good years and see what happens. You will not be missing anything by skipping out on college for 2 years. As an athlete there is nothing college can give you that will help you be a better athelete.


    This all depends on how good you are. If you are an average player trying to make it then you should go to college. I have friends that finished 4 years in college and are still playing in the minor league. I have friends that left after 2 years and went straight to pro. If your game is above college and you're just doing it becuase "you're supposed to" then you should go straight to pro.
     
  20. Toasty

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    ...and then remember the little people who gave you the good advice once you're rich and famous :x:
     
  21. johan

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    He'll have blown it all on $1500 hookers, cocaine and Bentleys, livin the Charlie Sheen lifestyle. ;)
     
  22. civicmon

    civicmon got all my game from the streets of california.

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    good choice man.
     
  23. dazed

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    OT forever :bigthumb:
     
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    Congrats Dazed :)
     

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