LGBT Confused to say the least.

Discussion in 'Lifestyle' started by PanasonicYouth, Nov 27, 2008.

  1. PanasonicYouth

    PanasonicYouth New Member

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    I've always considered myself a heterosexual guy, but fairly recently I hooked up with a gay guy.

    I spent the night at his, and we didn't go below the belt or anything, but we did fool around.

    Now the guy keeps calling me asking me to go round but I just don't know if that's what I want. I've never been more confused in my life, and some help would be appreciated. Cheers guys.
     
  2. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    so... go for it? :dunno: experiment, find out what you like.
     
  3. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    When you read the questions below, answer them with whatever first comes to your mind. Don't think about them, just go with whatever answer pops into your head first:




    Did you enjoy your experience with the guy the first time?

    Would you be willing to do exactly what you did with him again?

    Does the idea of going below the belt with a guy turn you on even slightly?





    If you answered yes to any of these then I say go for it and see how you feel after.
     
  4. MattThom01

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    go with what feels right. If you don't feel like doing anything with a guy right now, then don't. If, after while, you DO feel like doing something with a guy, then do that.

    If you're not sure, try hanging out with the guy the next time he invites you out. Just because you go out and spend time doesn't mean you will automatically end up fooling around with him. You have complete control of your actions, if things start going somewhere you don't like, let him know, and leave or stop.

    Above all, go with te flow, trust your instincts, and be safe.
     
  5. Alaya

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    I agree.
     
  6. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    wrong forum
     
  7. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :werd: There's nothing wrong with that! Give it a shot. Should be exciting to say the least. :dunno:
     
  8. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    You are me 4 years ago. Same situation but I clarified it is not at all what I wanted. If you trust him to be cool about, and stop if you want to stop. Then you'll probably know for certain one way or the other.

    But nothing wrong with it at all.
     
  9. PanasonicYouth

    PanasonicYouth New Member

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    Thanks muchly for the advice people, it felt good just to let it out really. None of my friends know about it, and frankly I'd rather they didn't for now I'd be consumed with a jocular wave of gay jokes until the day I died.

    I'm going to need to think about this one, but maybe next time he calls I'll go for it, because I could answer yes to more than one of those questions.

    Sorry if I posted this in the wrong place though.
     
  10. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    we don't care

    as long as you are aware of the existance of the other forum that's good enough (they are probably more qualified to address your issue over there)
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I'm going to move this to the Closet just because I think you'll get the best advice there
     
  12. Alaya

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    goodluck :wavey: Keep us posted :) :hs: We are whores for updates over in the Vag :mamoru:
     
  13. geniks

    geniks king of the hill

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    Were you sexually attracted to him?
     
  14. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    I have one question:

    When you masturbate, do you fantasize about men or women? Or if you use videos/pics, do you look at men or women vids or pics? What gets your hard?

    Because when you masturbate, that's the one time you absolutely cannot lie to yourself about your sexuality and what turns you on.
     
  15. ExDelayed

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    He will probably be more then ok with it. Some guys like the guys who are curious. He could see this as a way to have some secret fun that nobody will know about.

    You are trying something new, no reason to go telling everyone about what you are doing, its not their business. It shouldnt be an issue to your friends anyway and they should let it drop.
     
  16. CoCo

    CoCo ...is a Queer Don!! OT Supporter

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    I am completely impressed with the caliber of most of the replies posted here before the thread was moved to the Closet.

    And I agree--experiment! If you become uncomfortable, stop. How young are you anyway?
     
  17. RyRy

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    The 100% accurate Sam Gamgee have you caught teh ghey quiz :bowdown:
     
  18. Transfer to the dark side, join us Luke.
     
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    Good questions Mr Gamgee.
     
  20. wrwarwick

    wrwarwick OT Supporter

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    I think pictures would help a lot.

    Advice pending...
     
  21. PanasonicYouth

    PanasonicYouth New Member

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    In answer to your question CoCo, I'm 20. thank you all so much for your support. I hadn't told anyone about this until I posted it on here, and the fact that you guys have all been so cool with it has been a massive weight lifted off my shoulders. I've decided I'm going to meet with him and see where it goes.

    Wish me luck?

    EDIT - Pictures of me wrwarwick? No-one wants to see those...
     
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  22. ExDelayed

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    Luck. Play safe. :)
     
  23. wrwarwick

    wrwarwick OT Supporter

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    Of course we want to see pictures of you :)
     
  24. Marley

    Marley Nah Nah Nah

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    You'll never really know, unless you try it...atleast that's how it was for me. :o
     

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