I've been with my gf almost a year and a half...and I don't know how I feel about her. On the one hand, she is completely perfect. She never gives me any crazy, psycho girl drama. We've had like no serious arguments. She gives me no trouble at all. But on the other hand, I feel like there is some kind of deep connection missing. Whenever we hang out all we do is watch TV and other meaningless shit. We never have any "deep" conversations. It kind of seems like everything's superficial. I don't even feel like telling her about some important ideas/experiences I've had because I feel like she's not really interested in hearing about it. Sometimes I don't even feel like I know her...we just sort of go through the motions. I don't feel like she fits in with my friends either...we only hang out alone...and I feel like my friends are kind of hurt by that. She's my first girlfriend. I'm a junior in college and I've been going out with her since the beginning of my sophmore year. I feel like she's made me complacent: I quit going to the gym and haven't been able to go back in a routine since...I've gotten really out of shape. I also feel like I miss the "chase". I went to a party tonight with some friends without her because she was working, and I really miss it. I would kind of like to break up with her. But there's two things stopping me: 1) I still love her, but I don't know if I mean it when I say it. We've done a lot of stuff together over the past 1.5 years...and it hurts to think of losing that. I kind of feel like I love her just because we've been together so long...I don't know if I love her in the romantic sense anymore. 2) I worry about hurting her. I live around all my friends and hang out with them all the time. She lives at home. It kind of seems like I'm the only thing she has right now. Although, she still has friends in the area...she probably would hang out with them more if I wasn't around...but she would still be missing a lot without me...I think. These thoughts have been sort of stirring in my head since a few months ago. I just feel like I'm stuck in a rut and need a change, but I'm worried about losing her since we've done so much together and I don't want to hurt her. At the same time, I feel like I should be spending more time hanging out with my friends while I'm in college and having more fun on my own or with other chicks...or at least spending time with someone who I have a deep connection with. Anyone gone through something similar and have any advice?