In my opinion, communication is #1 in making a relantionship work. My boyfriend of 5 years.... has no communication skills what so ever. We can't talk about any issues that either or us have without getting in a retarded arguement. Now I will take some blame .... he definitely bares the bront of my anger but.... most of it comes from me not being able to talk to him. Depending on the situation, we could be argueing about something totally retarded... I'll hear him out... let him insult me etc... even if I disagree with him, I have the ability to be the bigger person and hear his side... when it comes my turn... NO! He doesn't have the ability to do the same, therefore instead of the problem being dealt with.... I push my hurt/anger inside and when the situation happens again I lose it.... What can 1 person do to make a relantionship work better? I know it sounds dumb, but if the other person won't help and your the one that seems to be bearing the bront of all the bullshit / pain / hurt... what can you do?