communication tip: compliment sandwich

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  1. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    If there's something that a sexual partner does that you'd rather they didn't, this is a good way to go about telling them.

    It's a structure for the delivery.

    Starts with, "Mmm, I really liked when you did X to me."

    Then, "I wasn't such a fan of the Y..."

    Finally, "But when you did Z... that was awesome."

    Message delivered, ego boosted.
     
  2. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    I learned this from family guy.
     
  3. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    genius

    i need to learn how to do this
     
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    Not a bad idea
     
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    Noted.
     
  6. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    everything i know i learned from peter
     
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    my brother is getting married in august and wants to use the line peter did at his wedding

    "kiss her? im going to destroy her"
     
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    Mmmm...compliment sandwich....**droools**
     
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    this is very similar to a sales technique called 'feel, felt, found'... it works like this.

    "I understand how you feel (about whatever), and I felt the same way, but then I found (explanation)." It's used for overcoming objections. Communication in sets of three works really, really well for some reason.
     
  12. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    the only similarity being that it has 3 steps, as far as i can see...
     
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    this is kind of an old, almost cliche trick, so old that it gets parodied by shows like the office.
    but if it works, it works.
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl: What a coincidence, I just saw the "compliment sandwich" scene in Family Guy a second ago.
     
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    It was on again tonight. :wiggle:
     
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    :rofl:

    Just watched it last night too. HAHA
     
  17. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    i don't have TV :dunno:

    i hate TV. i was raised without TV so the only live action stuff I saw as a child were movies in a movie theater. to this day i still can't get over how shitty television shows are in comparison to actual films.
     
  18. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I didn't have TV until I was 9, go figure I work for a cable company now and have every channel. And their are shows that are far better than some of the garbage films they put out now....but back to the point, this is always a good tactic.
     
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    now the only problem is thinking of 2 nice things to say lol
     
  20. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    i really liked your breasts..

    i was kind of meh with your skills in bed..

    but your ass... that was awesome.
     
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    funny, I know a few girls who could say that :mamoru:
     
  23. RedZ71

    RedZ71 Large Marge sent me.

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    i usually would just wait for my wife to chomp down on my left testicle, and then i would let my spasm of pain tell her that "i really wasnt such a fan of the Y"
     

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