My friend/boss/coworker just came out to his best friend, another coworker of mine yesterday. I was there for moral support for him and to help explain things that he couldn't. He came out to me, the first person he's ever told, about 9 months ago. He is 52. He has been living closeted his whole life, is divorced, has a son who doesn't talk to him, has no family, only like 6 friends, and is very lonely. He is severely depressed, currently on Prozac for it, and severely overweight because of his negative self-image and denial of his identity. He told me he never would have come out if he hadn't become my friend (worked together for two years now). He said knowing me showed him that gay people could be nice, well adjusted, normal people. He also said that he felt he could be a happy person if he was out, and that he would probably start caring about his health and appearance if he was able to feel ok about dating a man. I just know that most of his psychological issues are related to this internal conflict. His behavior is practically bi-polar because he feels the need (and admits that he does this) to present himself as a homophobic, badass, cynical person. But when he lets his true self out he is an extremely generous, nice, caring person and a great friend. I guess I just wanted to share this because it makes me so sad but happy at the same time that I am helping him move forward in his life. His doctor told him last week that if he didn't lose weight that he was in the last decade of his life. He told me yesterday that coming out and trying to meet someone is exactly the kind of motivation he needs to change his diet and work on his health. I just hope that is true.