FRK Coaxing/corrupting the innocent

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  1. THT

    THT The easy way is always mined

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    Been with my girlfriend for over a year, have known her for over 5 years, and will probably be living with her soon. She's somewhat of an innocent; I'm the first person she has regularly let eat her out, given head to, and had sex with. She's somewhat of an innocent. Doesn't know how to talk dirty, has seen one porno scene and won't even discuss the topic of anal. I have progressively corrupted her ( :noes: ) but wanted some advice as to how to get her to open up to "freakier" things. As a part of my present for our anniversary, she gave me carte blanche in the bedroom with the following restrictions:

    1. No threesome
    2. No pictures/video
    3. No anal

    She then later revealed to me that it was her way of being more sexually adventurous :bigthumb: My current plan is to ask her to pleasure herself while I help/watch and go from there.


    So what do other FSers think would be a good way to slowly turn her on (no pun intended) to the freaky side? Specifically anal sex and light bondage (velvet strips restraining her to the bedposts).
     
  2. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Btw, so you know, this is a good thread. I just don't have the experience to answer you and I'm waiting for these other slackers to start posting.
     
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    Have you tried light choking? The first time my boyfriend did it I went crazy, I loved it! I didn't expect to- I always thought the girls who liked choking were weird.

    When doing it doggy-style we occasionally wrap a long link chain (like dog chain) around my neck so he can just sit back and pull it. The cold metal and the actual choking drive me crazy, plus it's really easy to loosen it up if needed.

    But- I wouldn't start out with that right away- maybe get her to wear a choker style necklace during sex and see how she feels about it.
     
  4. THT

    THT The easy way is always mined

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    Well, I'm looking more for guidance in terms of approaching the freakier subjects. I know communication is important but I need a better line than, "Hey, have you changed your mind about buttsex?"
     
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    Slapshotnerd Outuvitian

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  6. CoCo

    CoCo ...is a Queer Don!! OT Supporter

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    Good thread... One way to bring up the subject is to start a conversation about what turns each of you on, or what each one of you fantasizes about. Some would suggest the use of erotic videotapes as an opportunity to say "That looks like fun to me, what do you think?" And since she hasn't seen many, gear it in the direction of what you want to do. Other lines are "Have you ever thought about doing that?" or "I have always wondered what that would be like, what about you?" Granted, these are still somewhat direct, but leave you less vulnerable than saying "It would really turn me on to tie you up, would you do that with me?"

    Since you seem focused on anal sex, maybe get her (you) an anal toy. You can then use it on her to awaken that need/joy.


    Article to reference => http://www.sextoys411.com/bondage_introduce_lover.htm
     
  7. Acesn8s

    Acesn8s The Deadman's Hand

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    Very cool.

    How about as part of your gift to her, you give her some money (or let her use your CC) to order something from an online sex shop? Tell her to pick anything she wants (up to a certain limit) for either you to use on her or she to use on you.

    Or pick something out together. (each draw up a list of 3 things that interest you, or just surf the site and comment on things).

    You could try introducing her to bondage by making it a game. Bet on a football game or something. Loser has to play "slave/servant" for 2 hours.
     
  8. dumb_end_user

    dumb_end_user Sad Gus

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    If she truly gave you carte blanche this is how I would address it. I would discuss generalities with her before hand - you said that she had three things that were off limits are these the only things? (It is very important to know.)

    Tell her that you are going to be in control and that you are going to do whatever you want to do to her (other than the three things that she has forbidden). Her only job is to tell you in some way when you are crossing one of her hard boundaries. It is then your responsibility to stop what it is that you are doing and move on. Don't stop the whole production, don't judge, don't do anything. Stop what it is that you are doing that she doesn't like and move on. You will be amazed at the things that you can think up and the things that she will enjoy. Be smart about it and have fun.

    If she wants a try at being dominant reverse the roles and give her the control for a night.

    If she has already said that anal is off limits leave it alone. If you try to coax her into doing it before she is ready it will blow up in your face. I mean completely leave it alone - don't mention it, don't hint at it, don't do it. She already knows you have an interest in doing it and that's enough for now. When she is ready she will beg you for it.
     
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    thebigcheese New Member

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    I agree with what everybody else has said, but would like to add this little gem I've learned: BE ROMANTIC!!!!
    I mean, be tender and loving about it, don't come out with raver death metal music blaring wearing leather and rubber screaming that she is your bitch and you are going to whip the shit out of her (an over-exaggeration, I know). Find the balance of tender and firm, and tease the absolute hell out her. I've found the opens people up faster than anything else.
     
  10. THT

    THT The easy way is always mined

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    Well, one night, she dressed up as a schoolgirl...that was hot. There's some great advice in this thread; thanks.
     
  11. redspydaman

    redspydaman Bresil, mon coeur. Brasil, meu coração

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    key is....plant the idea.
    and twist it so that it seems like HER idea.
     
  12. GND

    GND BBP! OT Supporter

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    Communication
     
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    My ex was like that...really annoying. Start out with some massage oils and a feather tickler. Get a riding crop or whip and let her use it. She'll love it. Also get some velvet cuffs and dildos. Get a very small and thin one for her ass. That might help make her open up to anal later on.
     
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    Get some bondage going on, she never restricted that, so tie her down or vice versa.
     
  15. THT

    THT The easy way is always mined

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    I'm exposing her to quasi-porn this weekend. I managed to get a copy of "The Lover's Guide to Sexual Positions" It's about an hour long, shows all the naughty bits and actions however, is somewhat, clinical, in explanations. This should be fun.
     
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    Fucking. Dot.


    Get creative. Settings, moods, different everyday toys you can bring in, oils, music, whatever.
    If you can honestly set aside an entire day for everything to revolve around this, you could play with alot of things.
     
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    cool! how have things been going the last few months :wiggle:
     
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    last gf was a virgin when i met her and only given head to one guy before me...so i took her virginity and then took her anal virginity 4 days after. I showed no mercy in fucking her and we would do it for hours...god i turned her in to a freak.
     
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    THT The easy way is always mined

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    Things are going well. We're talking of living together after the spring. On a freaky note, she's a HUGE fan of the toys I bought for her on Amazon :naughty::naughty:
     
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    All ideas posted are good. Just make sure you get her a bit drunk 1st, it will make her more recpetive to new ideas.
     
  22. Improvolone

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    That's disgusting
     
  23. purplebeast

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    Why the fuck? Its not like he is raping her. She is a willing partner that needs to loosen up.
     
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    THT The easy way is always mined

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    How about....no. I respect her and refuse to impair her judgement just for my pleasure.
     
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    purplebeast The depths of hell and endless torture await all h

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    Im sorry. It was my understanding she wanted to get freaky with you and wanted to explore new things.

    In my opinion, impairing a girls judgment is getting her drunk to do things she dosent want to do. But having a few drinks to help her open up to things she does want to do but its too shy to do, its not imparing her judgment. Different folks, different strokes I guess.
     

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