LGBT closet case... do u lie

Discussion in 'Lifestyle' started by DustinInTheWind, Apr 14, 2009.

  1. so how much do u lie to str8 friends? if ur out, than did u ever?
    experiences? good idea bad idea? lol need some examples here, as im in an interesting position at the moment...
     
  2. elevator

    elevator The tenants think it's wonderful! ヽ(´ OT Supporter

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    I don't really lie. I rarely get asked directly if I'm gay - when I do, my response is "why, you interested?" :naughty:

    I think my friends already know I'm gay though - I'm pretty blatant :o

    case in point - fb convo between me and my bff:

    Me
    still no gf?

    Him
    stll no gf
    haha

    Me
    plz come out

    Him
    haha no way i like girls

    Me
    i like girls sometimes too....

    Him
    only girls

    Me
    pfft boring

    :mamoru:
     
  3. hmm well how about getting blatantly asked?
    friends ask what 'her' name is (perosn im talking to)
    i scramble to come up with girls name....
    i generally follow up with a gay joke and turn up the gay around them, but i dont think its working.. they even ran into me at a gay club and it didnt get through.... i hate lying though... argh sucky position to be in.
     
  4. elevator

    elevator The tenants think it's wonderful! ヽ(´ OT Supporter

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    :hsugh:
     
  5. blaq19

    blaq19 New Member

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    I never got straight out asked either. When the question of why I don't have a gf or am I seeing anyone came up I'd just say not interested in anyone.

    If they've seen you at a gay club and you make the jokes and stuff they probably know. When I came out to my friends some of them say they kind of wondered.
     
  6. I just don't to loose friends, some of which being life long. :wtc:
     
  7. Kitler

    Kitler Fabulously Gay

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    This is what everyone says but its true. If they don't accept you for who you are then they are not your friends
     
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    BoredVersion LOLTIDE

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    :werd: hate to say it but your coming out will separate your true friends from the rest
     
  9. DouggieJ

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    I don't think your personal life is anyone else's business. For me it's on a need-to-know basis.
     
  10. PanasonicYouth

    PanasonicYouth New Member

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    I do 'man up' a bit around my friends. Then I notice, and feel a bit ashamed tbh.
     
  11. Naturally Baked

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    IDK I don't really lie. I dont act interested in girls. I asked my friend if he'd let me suck his cock, I asked him if he'd let another guy suck his cock, he asked me back and I said yeah probably.....sooo, if it comes up I dont really hide it but im not gonna be like OH BTW IM GAY!


    Honestly though, if people haven't figured it out by now they must be retarded.
     
  12. :rofl::rofl: i never said my friends were nobel prize winners...

    lol but seriously im not expecting any gasps of astonishment or anything, but they at the same time im not expecting a lot of understanding...
     
  13. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    I talk about my partner and my relationship like any person would talk about their relationship.

    For example, recently I was talking to someone (a potential client) and we're just shooting the shit about life in general:

    Him: "My wife is on a macrobiotic diet because of her diabetes. It's hard on me because I have to eat that way too.

    Me: "Same with us. I'm diabetic, so I'm on a very strict low-carb diet and my partner has to eat the same as me too. It's good, but he'll cheat while he's at work and have a cookie or something at lunchtime to satisfy his sweet tooth."


    Things like that.

    And I have an equality sticker on my car.
     
  14. Naturally Baked

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    What was his reaction?


    This girl I used to know in highschool has a class with me this semester (haven't seen her in 2 years and I look & act way different now). Anyways, I told her I wanted to work at sunglass hut. She was like "oh, well IDK if you know this or not, like its not bad, I dont think its bad or anything, but....like.....a lot of gay guys work there"...I was just like, "Oh, really? :hsugh:"
     
  15. camarosrool

    camarosrool yes i am

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    soooo what you're saying is.... I WANT to work there...
     
  16. :rofl::rofl:

    lol ur not exactly scaring me away from the hut here...
     
  17. Sam Gamgee

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    He was fine with it.

    I find that if you just mention it in conversation, it's not a big deal.

    It's like "I'm attaching no special importance on the fact that my Beloved happens to have a penis and your Beloved has a vagina."

    And if I don't assign any special significance to it, they don't either... , it's not that big of an issue.

    Sometimes, you'll get the person who gets uncomfortable, like because I'm gay they need to protect their anus... but that's their issue, not mine.
     
  18. So than maybe I ought 'mention' it real casual like
     
  19. Naturally Baked

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    LOL my friend just wrote my on facebook saying he knows im gay and that he is too :eek5:


    He told me he wanted to take me out with all his friends this weekend :noes:

    I wonder how he found out :dunno:
     
  20. camarosrool

    camarosrool yes i am

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    because you are a flaming homosexual? :dunno:
     
  21. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    When you know the Obviously Gay Traits (OGTs) to look for, it's easy to know.


    Maybe you stare at men's asses as they walk by a little longer than a man should look at another man's ass.

    Maybe your friends notice that you are often fixing your hair when you pass by a mirror.

    Maybe it's the shows you watch... or don't watch.

    Maybe it's the music you listen to or the clothes you wear.



    :dunno: You tell us. What makes you seem gay to other people?
     
  22. bwah aha ha.
     
  23. and thanks sam, you win for giving me the best idea/advice.
     
  24. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    It happens with age... as you get older, you gain more experience... and I find that as the new generation comes up (you all), it's my duty (and the duty of other gays on here and in real life who happen to be older) to make it easier for you all to excel and succeed.

    I'm 38 now... I've handled most of the issues we discuss on here before and I know what works and doesn't work.

    Now, I'm dealing with a whole different set of issues... like "Will my marriage have any less significance than a hetero marriage" and "Will Shawn be protected under the law if/when I die".

    As you age, the issues are still there, they just change.

    But, that's the joy of life... the amazing journey. :)
     
  25. D-FENS

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    I've always been very suggestive, but never actually come out. I had a mild interest in men (not necessarily men, but cocks) as I was growing up and through highschool, but I didn't actually realize my full gayness until the last months of highschool, and since then nobody has actually asked. I'm figuring at this point, if someone just asks me directly if I'm gay, I'd just say yes.
     

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