Every year the boyfriend and I have this argument... and just had it again today. So I guess I'm looking for advice as to how the rest of you deal with this... Every year at Christmas I get depressed for numerous reasons, including a family that makes things difficult and a lack of funds to buy gifts for all the people I would like to, or time to make said gifts. However, my biggest problem surrounds that I never get to spend Christmas with the only person I really want to, my bf, and there's no time in sight when that will happen. My family lives in NJ, his mom lives in CT and his dad down south...his holidays are divided between his parents, and I'm stuck in NJ alone. Last year we tried to compromise, and spent Christmas Eve with my family and then Christmas Day with his family...and neither of us ended up happy because of all the rushing around and the traffic and whatnot. He just wants me to come with him this year, but I explained I just can't completely leave my family for the whole holiday. So I guess my question is, what do you guys in similar situations do? Are we just stuck being apart on Christmas forever, and celebrating on another day?