Case of the Ex

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  1. 1200mk

    1200mk Still same OG

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    I am dating this girl right now for like 3 months... her ex calls her like once a week. It is pretty obvious he is trying to get some booty... I dont like it much. The thing i dont understand is why would she still want to keep in contact with her ex if he treating her so bad. BTW most of the times he calls she doesnt pick up.

    your thoughts?
     
  2. JustaMeThang

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    IMO, if she cared about you and respected your feelings, she would tell the EX to fuck off, be it in a nice or not so nice manner.
     
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    D A guiltless state of self awareness.. The process

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    I agree with JustaMeThang.
     
  4. 1200mk

    1200mk Still same OG

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    that is what i am saying...

    i am not gonna tell her to do that, i would like to do that on her own.
     
  5. MZ89

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    Why doesnt she just tell the guy her feelings?


    If she did then that might help alot becasu the ex would understand..
     
  6. 1200mk

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    the ex is a fuckface, i dont think he understands much. Maybe i should just take a knife to his neck??!
     
  7. JustaMeThang

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    Your GF isnt doin the right thing here. You are displacin the blame. Its not HIS fault, its hers.
     
  8. 1200mk

    1200mk Still same OG

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    its not my GF :coolugh:
     
  9. 1200mk

    1200mk Still same OG

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    so.... how should i approach this?

    ultimatum?
     
  10. JustaMeThang

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    Well, now, the rules have changed. If you are doin nothin more then seein her, and dont consider her your GF, then she is entitled to talk to who she wants, when she wants, and this includes any X boyfriends. Suck it up, or make things official. Til then, you have no right to be unhappy.
     
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    There is no approach you can take. If you two arent really even 'together', then you arent in a position to say much.
     
  12. mrs0323

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    And ultimatums NEVER work. You don't have a leg to stand on this time honey. Sorry.
     
  13. 1200mk

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    we are exclusively dating though....

    she wants to be bg/gf but i am not ready yet.
     
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    i wouldn't worry about it. you're not dating her, you're just seeing her. make the distinction. and even if/when you are dating, dont worry about it. you're always gonna have guys going after your girl if she's worth it. guys'll constantly hit on her, and you have to deal with it. if she's fine with it, you should be too. and if you're not fine with it, leave her.
     
  15. booxbooxkittie

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    If she is not your g/f or you don't have any feelings for her or anything, I would not worry about it. My boyfriend's ex was a BITCH the first like 6 months we were together...she would tell him MILLIONS of lies about me just to try to break us up...the pathetic thing is that she cheated on him and had been seeing this other guy for about 2 years...sometimes they just cannot handle seeing someone happy...but if you don't have feelings for her or anything and she is not "yours" then don't fret.
     
  16. Improvolone

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    I'd only worry if she talks to you about it, or acts on it. If she is handling it herself, you have no reason to worry. That is, if you trust her.
     
  17. hayte997

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    My GF is almost best friends with one of her ex's. It drives me crazy cause I know for a fact he is still madly in love with her and I'm sure he pervs out whenever he sees her. I hate the fucker and I've never even met him. I only talk to one of my ex's.. We were friend for like 5 years then date for a year.. we were never in love and there's no feelings.. we just call each other every way once in a while when once of us is very bored.. we just talk about stupid shit.
     
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    she answers when you are not around or he would quit calling.
     
  19. BTA

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    Not ready for any sort of committment but you want to give her an ultimatum that she cant talk to her ex?

    right....
     
  20. Improvolone

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    Seriously, that shit shouldn't bother you. She's not with him, she's with you. Don't fuck it up by being irrational.
     
  21. ISO9002

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    Maybe yr potential gf is kinda still in love with him, but just that her ex has treated her bad in the past...so she wants to forget about him by not taking his call...

    she is trying to forget her ex, but still in a way attached w/ him...
     
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  23. I'm still friends with a couple of my ex boyfriends...at times i know they would like a good romp in the sack but that doesn't mean i'm going to let that happen. you just got to trust your gf..and if she sleeps with him or whatever then you know that you arn't meant to be with her.
     
  24. k9n

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    fastlif has got it right....
     

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