Can't stop checking out/fantasizing about other girls

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  1. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    I've been in a pretty solid relationship for about a year and a half now. We've had our ups and downs, learned a lot from each other, and are generally solid. Our sex life is pretty good...we have sex a few times a week. Her sex drive tends to be stronger than mine; more accurately, she wants to have sex with me more often than I do her. This could be due to a number of things...anyhow...

    I've always checked out other girls while in relationships. I've fantasized about other girls as well. I'd see a hot girl, wonder what she looks like naked, etc. etc. Sometimes I might stupidly make a comment around the gf.

    I think the biggest problem is the frequency. It happens A LOT. Anywhere I go...if I'm driving and see a girl running, if I'm at the store, anywhere...it's like I HAVE to look and check them out, and then I might think something sexual. I think it's pretty natural for men to check out women, but it's the frequency and intensity of it that worries me.

    I haven't been with a lot of women. I'm 26 years old and my "count" is just under the double digits. I feel like I haven't gotten a lot of attention from women in general, and now when I do (from women other than my gf), it excites me. Sometimes it makes me think, "would things be different if I were single, i.e. would we hook up?"

    So...questions. Should I be in this relationship, or am I hurting my girlfriend behind her back with all the checking out that I'm doing? Am I too young to really settle down? And if I were single, would I even be able to work my magic and get with these girls? You know, grass is always greener.

    Sorry...this post is a massive jumble. Hard to really put this into words.

    Cliffs: I'm in a relationship and I'm constantly checking out other girls and thinking sexy thoughts. Am I a scumbag or am I just a guy?
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I'm sure some people would be angry with my response...but I just don't give a shit.

    If you've always felt, and even feel now, that your "number" is lower than you'd like-you're going to always feel that way.

    I can completely understand a man wanting to look and think sexually of a random woman walking by...but I can just tell by your post that this is the kind of thing that will always bug you, and would only be worse the more serious you got in your current relationship. So most likely, until you rack up more notches on your sexual belt you're going to always worry about wantin other women and then might turn into the guy who cheats.
     
  3. Infection

    Infection Guest

    You're being a guy, I think. Just don't act. Your girl looks at other guys, too. Just don't act.
     
  4. CorpseStreet

    CorpseStreet New Member

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    If it's just a matter of checking out other girls what your gf doesn't know won't hurt her. Once you start acting on this and cheating then it's a problem.
     
  5. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    I didn't know they were different things.
     
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    damn, i need to grab a jacket. this thread just dropped 60 degrees. lol
     
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    she made your AVs nipple stand up...
     
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  9. CorpseStreet

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  10. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    If you are constantly thinking of having sex with all these women but don't even want to have sex with your gf as much as she wants it, then yeah...do her a favor and end this.

    You don't even sound that into her in your post. You don't mention loving her or even liking her a lot, all you say about your relationship is that it's "solid", etc. Honestly you just sound bored with the relationship. Being single may not be what makes you happy but if you don't at least do it then you're going to spend the rest of your life being :hs: that you didn't fuck more chicks if you stay with her.
     
  11. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    As usual
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  12. Thelonius

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    it's called being a man. has its ups and downs.
     
  13. chica&buddies

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    i heard [or read] that men get the desire to "settle" down and/or commit after they've had sex with at least 12 women. :dunno: i know a few guys that have lived up to that little statistic.
     
  14. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    you hit the nail on the head madame
     
  15. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    how would you feel if your gf checked out / fantasixed about / had sex with other guys?
     
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    Ask your husband. :rolleyes:
     
  17. saosko

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    Eh it's normal, the grass is always greener.
     
  18. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    Thanks all. A few responses.

    beer: See, that's the part of the problem. I really don't have a "target number," and honestly, I don't know if I'd ever hit the point where it's like, "OK, I'm done. Time to settle down." I have a feeling that I'll always want more, that I'll always want that variety.

    Midget: I do love her, absolutely. That's why this is bothering me so much. We're good together. I don't want to lose her. But yeah, the honeymoon phase is over and things are kind of coasting right now. I think that's the natural progression of relationships.

    John: I honestly wouldn't be so upset if she's checking out or fantasizing about other guys...sex is another thing. She's bi, and she's actually more into girls in general than guys, and has had sex with her female bff a few times while we've been in this relationship. I don't mind it...just kinda wish I had been a part of it, but whatever :hsd:

    I think a big part of my problem is the amount of porn I've consumed and continue to consume...I think that has greatly affected my oversexualization of things in general, my desire for variety, and the checking out of all these women. May also contribute to my lower desire for sex cause I can just go jack it to porn...
     
  19. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :eek3: Wow, there are a hell of a lot of factors here
     
  20. CorpseStreet

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    Have you tried cutting back on the amount of porn you watch?
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    No, that would make too much sense :mamoru:
     
  22. CorpseStreet

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    You're right, what was I thinking :uh:
     
  23. peoplescar

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    maybe his need to watch porn is because he's trying to extinguish his need for variety, thus he is watching it more.

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  24. saosko

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    pr0n is not the problem. bring her into watching it too, it could be the solution.
     
  25. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    Well based on your post, you definitely wouldn't have better chances if you were single. It's the relationship you're in now that's giving you the "confidence" to check out other women so blatantly. You need to get a new girl or change it up in the bedroom. Is your girl down with a MFF 3some?
     

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