Can't seem to ...get it up with new g/f

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  1. StealthMode

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    We've been dating for about 3 weeks now, and one night I went down on her for the first time, it was all good...but I couldn't get myself up (she didn't know this :o) which in fact worked out fine since she said she wasn't ready to go all the way yet to my relief because for once I wasn't ready yet either.
    I'm just a little worried, I've never had a problem getting it to stay up, even my first time was no big deal. I've never had such strong feelings for a girl before either, could that, plus not feeling ready be why I can't keep myself up?
    Sure I arise to the occasion when we make out, but as soon as I notice it goes back down and thats the end of it.
    I'm guessing I am juuust not ready yet. I know it's not because I am not sexually attracted to her, she is the hottest girl I have gone out with..
    I'm just confused lately :o Just wondering if anyone has any ideas.

    I feel like a virgin again with her...she said she feels that way around me too, this is too weird. :hsugh: :o
     
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    Zemo n00b of the year

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    nerves, man. Just relax, enjoy it, and don't think about it.
     
  3. StealthMode

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    :hs: Never had this sort of problem with any other girl I've been with.
     
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    Perhaps all the other girls in your past haven't been much of anyone that you truly cared about so sex wasn't as significant with them? You say that you have strong feelings for this girl, well maybe you fear that sex will change the whole scope of everything and you're not sure whether it'd do more good or less.

    It's probably a combination of things that's unconsciously blocking you from going all the way with your girlfriend. Maybe you should sit down and discuss this with her. Get an understanding of her feelings and how she feels about sex and whatnot and if it'd change your relationship and if so, how. :hs:
     
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  6. StealthMode

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    :rofl: Thats not the problem.. :p



    I think it is because I truly care about her, everything is different with her, never felt like this about any other girl. We did talk about it that night, and she wants to wait just like me, we both know when the moment is righ that it will mean more than anything else before.. Like she said, she feels like a virgin again, same here...only worse than when I was :o
    So I guess I won't worry about it. I'll know when I am ready :dunno:
     
  7. TheUsualSuspect

    TheUsualSuspect And poof. Just like that, he's gone.

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    Happened to me before. I was so concerned about giving her pleasure that I got nervous at the thought of her not achieving orgasm every time. Hence, no wood.

    Once I realized it was all in my head, everything worked out.
     
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    It happens for me on new chicks, sometimes.... It's just nerves, and will go away once you are more comfortable.
     
  9. JaxFlJon

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    Same thing happened to me! I had a g/f for 2 years man at first I was mr woody then after a long while an dnothing happening mr woody turning into mr droopy... then she finally wanted to play and I was like fuk it im not in the mood anymore.
     
  10. StealthMode

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    Oh, I know that will be the case ;)
     

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