can't orgasm..

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  1. Jay487

    Jay487 What's Life If You Ain't Enjoyin' It?

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    ok so I recently lost my virginity to this girl I'm talking to. The first time I went limp after like 20 mins either due to nervousness or the fact that she was riding me so hard. When I'm on top I don't seem to have as much of a problem staying hard.

    Anyways the first time I didnt cum, went limp and stopped after 20 minutes.

    The second time she came twice, I didnt go limp, but I still cant cum. Its almost like I've been so used to jerking off that its hard to cum from sex :hsugh:

    Is it a mental block or nervousness or something? Someone help me here, she thinks its her fault and its killin me.
     
  2. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    You're nervous. It will pass. Relax and enjoy yourself, have her go down on you for a while, lots of foreplay so you're relaxed and groovy by the time you get down to it.
     
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    Drilldo Active Member

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    :werd: It's hard to "let go" at first.
     
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  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :mamoru: this is why I'm so weirded out by guys who jack it more than once a day.
     
  6. poweraid

    poweraid OT Supporter

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    there's nothing wrong with that :o
     
  7. eu4ia

    eu4ia Active Member

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    i never came until the 4th girl i slept with. it was all about being comfortable with the person and finding the right position.

    its a much better problem to deal with than coming way too early
     
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    yes, you shouldnt be jacking it more than once a day everyday, there is something wrong with that
     
  9. YourMomOnRyeBun

    YourMomOnRyeBun New Member

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    Are you in a safe a private area? By that I mean...you aren't paranoid that her parents are going to walk in? Or the police are going to catch you in the back seat of a car?
     
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    YourMomOnRyeBun New Member

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    Just make sure you whack it when you get home.

    Blue Balls = FTMFL! :o
     
  11. stolid_agnostic

    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    this happened to me actually the first 5 or 10 times I had sex

    when I had a steady relationship and was relaxed, it went away and I never had the problem again

    you just need to be comfortable with her and you'll be fine


    also, you'll find that your orgasms are better with jacking off because you're in control but that the intimacy of sex makes it worth it
     
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    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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  13. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    this is not true. while jacking off may give more consistently good orgasms, the best ones come from sex in my experience.
     
  14. stolid_agnostic

    stolid_agnostic One who is both stolid and agnostic. Get a diction

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    that's probably because you had moments of extra intimacy and so your orgasm was more intense for that reason

    I think we're on the same page here, actually
     
  15. antihero

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    I must be wacking it all wrong then....
     
  16. bobzilla

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    i think you need to do it in the butt then
     

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