Can't help having hope

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  1. sapient

    sapient New Member

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    I just met this girl a few weeks ago through work, she's freakin' sweet. Ask Demosnat, she met her. Anyway, I'm running into pretty much what seems like insurmountable obstacles, and while I won't give up hope regardless of what you guys think, I want to know if I'm crazy for thinking I have any chance here. Here's the important points:

    1. she and I can talk for hours, and have on several occasions from midnight until past sunrise
    2. she is always looking me in the eye, completely focused on me when we're together, is always smiling, and touches me to make points or just out of the blue
    3. she gave me a half-hour long massage in the bar one night, and on another occasion laid with her head in my lap for almost three hours while we talked
    4. she "really likes my personality" and thinks I'd be perfect to date

    ... however:

    5. she says she isn't physically attracted to me... ugh
    6. her boyfriend of two years just broke up with her, and her friend told me she just wants some space (understandable)

    All logic tells me to abort, chalk it up a case of horrible timing and as a lost cause, and move on. But she's so awesome (fun/beautiful/intellegent/interesting) that I can't yet. Number 5 is the one that is giving me the most stress, as that's the one that I can't see ever getting past, lol.

    Am I wasting my time in the friendzone?
     
  2. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    I do not remember meeting said girl.

    If she isn't attracted to you, i'd give it up. Everything else can change, but attraction, thats a done deal.
     
  3. ptwiggens

    ptwiggens New Member

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    au contraire...

    It could take months... but if you wait long enough, when you do reinitiate contact you should start from scratch.

    This might only work for someone who knows how to create attraction on command though.
     
  4. demosnat

    demosnat New Member

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    I would argue with you, but your French is so Charming
     
  5. ptwiggens

    ptwiggens New Member

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    Le prix d'Amour, c'est seulement Amour. Il faut aimer si l'on veut être aimé.

    ;)
     
  6. DTR rex

    DTR rex New Member

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    Yeah, the attraction thing is hurting you.

    If you like her, maybe just stay her friend and after she "has some space" then see what happens. Don't be surprised if you become permenately friendzoned though... but it might be worth a shot.
     
  7. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    You're friendzoned. Sorry.
     
  8. Loryk

    Loryk Elite Member OT Supporter

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    Friendzoned bad
     
  9. jackjohnson

    jackjohnson simple as something nobody knows OT Supporter

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    friendzone + one-itis, 6 billion other people in the world.. move on
     
  10. The Dave

    The Dave Biodegradeable Member

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    She told her friend that she wasn't interested. You're screwed my friend.
     
  11. ww_Crimson

    ww_Crimson New Member

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    No attraction = nothing more for you.
     
  12. Bugalu

    Bugalu OT Supporter

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    Your going to become the best friend she's ever had.
     
  13. eljefedetonto

    eljefedetonto OT Supporter

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    you're her big sis :Owned:
     
  14. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

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    Unless you have kissed her, played with her tits, ass, or pussy....it does sound like she thinks of you as another girlfriend.

    Let me guess, you talked for hours on the phone?

    She was talking about all her problems when she was lying with her head in your lap?
     

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