SRS Can't Handle Being Single

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  1. CT Cubs Fan

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    For some reason, I cannot handle the idea of being single. I was single all through out highschool and just recently got out of my first "relationship" in a long time. I find myself again loathing the sheer concept of not having a gf and find myself faced with the nerve racking need to find a significant other. Any advice?
     
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    :wtc: i feel the same way. its an empty, lonely world.
     
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    Me also.

    I think we are all like this in someway. :wtc:
     
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    CT Cubs Fan - Buddy, I am in the exact boat as you are. It's absolutely tearing me a part day by day. And to make things worse, I think about my ex every minute.
    :sadwavey:
     
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    We all get lonely. We all need touch. We all need love. But, we also have to learn to like ourselves. We have to learn that we can be our own entertainment system. I am rather starting to enjoy being single, matter of fact, I kind of am getting into it. Yes, I think about my ex every freakin' day...at first it was just agony but now it just irks me a bit. Some days are better than others. Such is life. So, instead of thinking ...OMG--I don't have an SO and purposely going out to look look for one, why not take pause and see what's going on in the world around you? As I have said before, Cupid does not have a timetable... when and if it is meant for you to get whammied with one of Cupid's arrows you will. Chill.
     
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    You can't let the idea of 'her' dominate your life... you have to look forward to other things that you enjoy; video gaming, friends, etc.

    I'm 21 and started dating my first g/f when I was 16, somehow we've been together ever since, but I do remember pre-relationship times and they were rough as hell.

    My advice: Go out with friends and go to something fun.
     
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    Thanks people. Nice to know I'm not alone. :bowdown:
     
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    Interesting. You have an ex. So that means you had a girl at one time.
    What makes you think you won't have another one?


    On another note, any mods around able to do something about that ^^^ above this post.
     
  13. Jadix

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    I've been single about 7 months now. And I know how you feel, but you will get through it. I have. I remember going to bed alone, that was the worst part. I'd just lay there and grab an extra pillow to put my arm around, because I didn't want to be alone. It was so cold too, everything was cold. There was never someone there to sqeeze me back, I'd squeeze the pillow but it would just deflate. Then I'd think about how much I wanted her there, and tears would start to flow. Then the dreams tore me up too. I would dream she was holding my hand, or hugging me, or sleeping with me...and I'd wake up alone, grasping my covers, or my pillow. I felt so empty.

    I'm still alone, but I found a way to put my mind at ease. I used to tell myself I should still be with the girl, this is all fucked up, this isn't how its supposed to be, etc. etc. But you have to just let it be. You have to let go, and get comfortable alone. The more you desire a significant other, the more you're going to be torn apart by the fact that you dont have one. You dont have one. So the fuck what. I dont mean that in a harsh way, but its true. The truth is you really dont need another. You can be perfectly happy by yourself. And once you reach that peace of mind, you may find another person sitting in your lap, or laying next to you when you fall asleep.
     
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    It's just hard because she was my only girlfriend I've had and it lasted four great years. I'm sure someone else will come along, buts its already been three months and I can't just turn love off like a light switch. :wtc:
     
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    I'm glad I'm not the only one that has felt this way. I still sometime put my arms around a pillow and cry my eyes out. It's so sad what we have to go through...
     
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    You need to read the second paragraph and take it to heart. You dont have to go through this.
     
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    I get that way sometimes, but that second paragraph really puts it out there for you to understand.
     
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    Welcome to my world and being so damn shy doesnt help. Fuck you Katrina for fucking up my relationship.
     
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    Mine was 4 years too....but long distance fucks things up....I keep lying to myself saying it will get better...but who knows?
     
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    It seems to me like you guys enjoy being unhappy. You dont want your problem solved, you want to go back in history. You know you cant, but you dont want to accept it and move on. I know it sucks, but crying yourself to sleep every night wont make things better. The only way to get happy again is to be happy. When that voice inside your head starts saying "AWWW I WANT HER" tell it to shut the fuck up, and then think about something else.

    Being shy isn't an inherent trait. its not in your DNA. If you're shy and hate it, work on that.

    Sounds like you've already decided that it wont get better. Whether you think it will or it wont, you're right.
     
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    That is good logic...and I truely have to agree...In the words of Walt Whitman "If i contradict myself, than fine I contradict myself..."
     
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    The first time I got out of my first serious relationship (2 year relationship in high school), I felt heartbroken at first and then, surprisingly, completely liberated.
    I suddenly had lots of time to spend with friends that I'd not been around and neglected - and tons of time for myself. It was wonderful.

    It hurts, and it's hard at first. But sieze the time to do things for *you*. You'll find another girlfriend sooner or later, but in the meantime, improve yourself - make yourself happy. :bigthumb:
     

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