Can't get over my ex......

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  1. Aww_Kittah_Aww

    Aww_Kittah_Aww Active Member

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    Ex girlfriend broke up with me three weeks ago. We talked for an hour last night and both miss each other. She said she misses me but is confused about what she wants right now. She's seeing a guy casually as a rebound. It's easy to forget about all the bad shit and just miss all the good times we had together.

    I was doing pretty good but then we chatted over webcam last night and all the feelings I had for her came flooding back. I feel like I just erased all the progress I have been making.

    I know I need to move on but I miss her so much. I guess I just need to hear some word's from OT.

    To make it worse our two year anniversary would have been tomorrow.
     
  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Like I've said in the 876,328,767,587 other threads that are exactly like yours:

    You aren't going to get over your ex when you two still talk and it's only been 3 weeks!

    You have to find your balls, remind yourself why you broke up and cut off ALL contact.
     
  3. saosko

    saosko OT Supporter

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    Oh shit, I thought PcH posted this thread.
     
  4. Vysion

    Vysion New Member

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    I agree he needs to cut contact, but I do have to say that it's easier for women to say/do this because it is easier for women to move on and find attention elsewhere. She already has a rebound, and probably will get another one shortly after that. I just ask that you cut these guys a little slack when they're asking advice on how to get over their ex's.
     
  5. ChipOnShoulder

    ChipOnShoulder New Member

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    If you man up, eliminate contact, and do your best to stay single, you won't feel a shred of pain or heartbreak after just a month or two.

    It's natural to feel regret and loneliness, even if you broke up with the cruelest/meanest girl ever.

    Just be smart enough to realize that you will be just fine and get over it... breaking up is grieving process, and that shit takes time.
     
  6. THoC

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    you already know what to do. you said yourself you made progress and then lost it all bc you spoke to her.

    it's not easy but you have to avoid ANY kind of contact w. her.
     
  7. eXyle

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    just put her aside and focus on living your life. eventually, you'll just be over her.

    if you keep her around, you're just prolonging the process. out of sight, out of mind!
     
  8. just_another_on

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    Just keep the idea of why you broke up fresh in your head.

    Truer words could not apply. Its the only thing that will keep you away.

    The obvious of having a good social life, hanging around good people, eating well and exercise. You'll be happy in life.
     
  9. Dargone

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    Yeah, women tend to have another guy lined up or, at the very least, they are usually planning a breakup for weeks or months in their heads (I had an ex fly some d00d out, the very day I moved from our place, that she met on the internet). Men, as a whole, do not work this way.

    Having said all that, her original point is still valid. The best thing any man, or woman for that matter, can do is ride of into the sunset. You will retain your dignity and self respect when you do this. I m telling you, from experience, this is the way to go (the aforementioned ex came "crawling" back after I had not talked to her in weeks).

    Keep your chin up mang...
     
  10. Viper

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    You can't get over your ex? Or you WON'T get over your ex?
     
  11. JamesL

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    If she is casually seeing a guy as a rebound, you should casually start seeing a girl. It will help immensely.
     
  12. saosko

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    :mamoru:
     
  13. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Here's some copy pasta you can have to hold you over until I write my book. :mamoru:
     
  14. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :bowrofl:

    Nothing better than a good :wtcj:, amirite?

    :hsugh:
     
  15. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I can confirm this is a bad idea.
     
  16. MossMan813

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    It's been said so many times before, and yes, I think we have all been guilty of this once or twice, but LISTEN TO IT! It's really as simple as cutting off all communication, keeping yourself surrounded by people that you enjoy being with, and focusing on nothing but yourself for a while. It's like a surefire hangover cure.
     
  17. jeffswain

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    i agree
     

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