Well after 12yrs of marriage and one child and well she had been treated for depression for a few years now and things got really bad where i had though about suicide instead of dealing with the stress of fighting everyday and seeming like i couldnt please her.Well i had told her for years that things needed to change but i had leaned more to her changing than both of us. Well the time came where after numerous emotional breakdowns and bad thought i had enough and moved out . Well it came as a relief for a while and she finally decided that she needed help after i left and she was turning into her father a really mean and hateful man . well after seeing new doctors they found out that she had severe bipolar and OCD and put her on mood stabilizers and a large dosage of prozac and once it started to work she had actually turned back into the woman that i meet and had slowly started to try to talk about things in late june well on july 4th she had gone out with one of her old bf that was also in marriage problems and they slept together and started a relationship . She said she was so confused and wanted me and wanted him also but couldnt decide she loved me but not like she used to and to hold on and let her figure things out but in mid to late aug he moved in and she was supposed to check into a hospital because since he had been around her condition had turned worse and she wasnt happy anymore i didnt even know her . they were drinking constantly and she had gotten to the point that she could take care of my daughter (11 yrs old) so our daughter went to stay with her grandmother so i coudl financially get right and she could get mentally right . She never went into the hospital and he has completely moved in and he is married still also and i get a call from her that she is pregnant and even though i know it was stupid but i was still sleeping with her i just couldnt let go oh her i wanted to help her like he wasnt . he is a real deadbeat making 8.50 an hr and didnt pay any of his wifes bills and is a alkeholic and autistic . Well state law says that i cannot divorce her if she is pregnant until a paternity test is preformed and they want to wait til the child is 6mo old to make sure there are no complications so im stuck for 15 mo still married with her having an affair and pregnant by him and my daughter is still at her grandmothers but he is there . When she told me she was pregnant it crushed me because i want her back in my life but at the same time trying the dating thing isnt something that i have a comprehension of after 12yrs of marriage . but im wondering why do i still care and why it hurts so much she has moved on but why cant i ? I have changed my life and sought counceling and trying to improve myself the stress of all of this in one month made me loose 42# and go down 5 pants sizes and i am a type 2 diabetic also so my sugar has been from 120-500 depending on the stress level . And now every time she and him get into it she either calls me or comes by my apt i live like 15 min away and she has asked me if i have someone in my life and if im sleeping with anyone and i told her that i did and she got upset i told her does it matter if i am sleeping with anyone because she is why should it matter but i dotn knwo why to her it does she asked me if i kissed the other girl and i told her yes and she started crying and ran out of the apt . What the hell do i make of this whole situation and what the hell do i do ?