Cannot orgasm - she has to jack me off in order to get me off - HELP! :(

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  1. Cronin

    Cronin New Member

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    Hi everyone,

    So I started dating this girl two weeks ago and we've run into a problem, one I've always had - but she doesn't know this.

    She's wet, she's tight, she's hot, and yet I cannot orgasm while fucking her. After about an hour (she finishes full blown orgasm in like ten minutes) I still cannot finish and by then she's a little dry.

    I use Trojan Ultra Thin spermicidal lubricant condoms. The only thing I can think of is that the lube perhaps numbs my penis?

    I can receive a handjob and cum within several minutes.

    WTF :dunno: :wtc:
     
  2. Joshua

    Joshua ambition over everything OT Supporter

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    You've never been able to nut while doing the deed?

    It is probably due to the condom. Go ahead and look at the the sticky thread at the condom posts. You'll find some other brands to try.
     
  3. Joshua

    Joshua ambition over everything OT Supporter

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    Also, it can be a mental thing. But in this case it doesn't sound like that.
     
  4. Cronin

    Cronin New Member

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    Cool, thanks :cool:
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    How often do you masturbate?

    Whatever you answer, cut down masturbation to a bare minimum. If you go a week without it and then sleep with her I bet you'll see a change.
     
  6. Joshua

    Joshua ambition over everything OT Supporter

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    I'm going to take a stab and say not much otherwise she wouldn't be getting him off as easily as she is with handjobs. BUt obv we'll find out shortly I'm sure.
     
  7. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Not necessarily. He could masturbate a ton and therefore has grown accustomed to getting off that way. It's a really really common thing I'm noticing with guys now and it's sad. If she can get him off with a handjob it's because he craves that stimulation, so if he cuts that off completely he can rewire himself in a way to get off from sex.
     
  8. Joshua

    Joshua ambition over everything OT Supporter

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    The opposite can also be true though. Men are really good at getting themselves off and sometimes a female giving us a hand job just does not do it. Depends on the dude though, just offering another perspective obviously.
     
  9. Cronin

    Cronin New Member

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    I practiced masturbation at least a few times a week before I met this girl.
     
  10. Cronin

    Cronin New Member

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    Okay, I can stop that. But only because that girl loves sex and, for whatever reason, I'm the only guy who's ever been able to get her to orgasm every time :dunno:

    It's not that I have skills, I just told her to flex her lower muscles and her vagina puckers around my penis - she likes that and it works for her.
     
  11. Joshua

    Joshua ambition over everything OT Supporter

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    A few times in a 7 day spread is pretty average I'd say for a single dude.
     
  12. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Hardly 3 times a day every day of the week that's for sure

    Psychological maybe? :dunno:
     
  13. Havsie

    Havsie When I die, bury me inside the Pepsi 1893 store OT Supporter

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    20+ times a day is normal
     
  14. Joshua

    Joshua ambition over everything OT Supporter

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    This is a weird question, but are you like, focusing on the deed when you're nailing? Puttin tons of pressure on yourself?
     
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    HJs generally suck because of this.
     
  16. antihero

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    Yes and no. its all about how you do it.

    I can get off in 5 minutes for a quickie or last as long as I want to. If I stop masterbating I can't cum any quicker, it just gets harder to control when I want to last for a while.
     
  17. Cronin

    Cronin New Member

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    Actually, my mind kind of wanders. I'm not sure why.
     
  18. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    My fear (before he answered) was that he was one of those guys who masturbated twice a day every day and now has desensitized himself. However, now it seems all mental :sad2:
     
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    I had this problem before, its all mental my good man. Thats all it is. Its in your mind. Find your favorite position. Just keep doing it, and you'll get there. Personally I like to have the girls legs on my shoulders and pretty much folder her up really well. Keep pounding away and you'll feel her orgasm, it will be VERY VERY tight and then soon after kaboom you'll blow and then from now on you'll be able to do it any time.
     
  21. m3m750

    m3m750 Kickin' it old school

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    Try laying off the jerking off for a while. You've probably just gotten used to that as a trigger, so you don't respond to other stimulation.
     
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    I think I'm the opposite. I can masturbate twice a day for a week and still get off from sex. I can masturbate an hour before sex and still get off quickly. Handjobs and blowjobs don't do a lot for me unless the girl is pretty good at it.
     

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