Cannot cum from her hand jobs...

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  1. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    Seriously, I don't know what it is. Palmela can bust my nut in mere minutes. She's stroked it for at least 15 w/lube getting nowhere. Is her grip too gentile? It helps when she's firmer, but I feel like her hand gets tired. I don't understand why she wont just go for the dome...
     
  2. busydoingnothing

    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    The most obvious problem is your frustration and strong desire to get off, which is the exact opposite of relaxation that sexual pleasure requires. You're wanting this so much and getting stressed that it's not happening that it is making it worse. Obviously any guy can jerk himself off and get off without a problem at all, because we are in 100% control, and we know when to speed up, slow down, etc. With someone else doing it, it's completely out of your control. All you can do is relax and perhaps throw out a few pointers. Tell her what you like. It'll come with time (pun intended).
     
  3. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    You're exactly right.

    I get her off all the time. It's fair to reciprcate?
     
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    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    Eh, don't look at it in the manner of she owes you for what you give her. Look at it in the manner of you doing something for her because you enjoy doing it and you care about her. Otherwise, you may grow to resent her. Besides, that's more added stress. And actually, if you focus more on getting her off and making her happy, you will be less focused on your own pleasure, and therefore more likely to get off. Life is just a series of paradoxes.
     
  5. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    Nah, dude, everything you're saying is the EXACT attitude I had going into everything. But it's getting to the point now where it's incredibly frustrating. Blueballs multiple nights of the week.
     
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    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    It's difficult man, I know. And that frustration only makes it worse. Do you guys do anything else besides mutual masturbation? How old are you if you don't mind me asking?
     
  7. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    you need to tell her exactly how you want her to do it. Everyone is different and she won't know what you want unless you tell her.
     
  8. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    busydoingnothing, i've munched that carpet, and shes put her mouth on it a couple quick times, but she doesnt seem to like sucking the sausage, so i think im gonna leave the pink taco alone too. she can't have the upper hand on that one. i'm staying with her this weekend so we can pork, but what i dont understand is why she cant just get the job done when we're in no position to fuck. and im 18.

    midget, ive sort of hinted to her that she can be more firm with it, but i guess i need to just be more blunt about it.
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Yeah hints aren't enough. You need to say "it feels really good when you grip it harder" or something like that. Don't tell her she's doing it wrong but say what you enjoy and what feels good to you. We don't have penises so we don't know what feels good to you unless you tell us.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl::rofl::rofl: I just heard way too many silly words/phrases in that shit
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    yeah that post made me :mamoru:
     
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    guide her? :hsugh:
     
  13. bigwoode

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    alot of it is in your head, think positive
     
  14. BradUF

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    Girls are afaird they will break your dick and they get tired fast.
     
  15. Falconer

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    I have trouble cumming from handjobs, too, because I don't really like them. I can do that myself, and a mouth or vag feels soooooo much better.
     
  16. fray

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    masturbate in front of her so she knows what you like, guide her hand, and tell her (yes, i'm repeating everything said above)

    And use grown up terms when you describe things to her.
     
  17. BradUF

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    Say, I want you to grab my lolipop.
     
  18. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    Falconer, exactly.

    Silver, I have masturbated in front of her. I've brought myself almost to the point of orgasm and then passed if off to her. I guess she was a little too slow on the go. I just packed it away and figured better luck next time.
     
  19. Falconer

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    I've never been into handjobs. A few girls have thought this was weird. I'm like "well, which would you rather have me do: use my dick or my mouth, or my hand?" They're usually like "your dick or your mouth." I'm like "exactly."
     
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    My bf doesnt really care for handjobs...which is fantastic as i'd much rather give him head.
     
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    :bowdown: Why can't I find a girl like this! DAMN
     
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    they're everywhere. allllll around you
     
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    deathofxromance New Member

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    yeah. agreed.
    my hand gets tired way too easily.
    neck muscles > arm muscles.
    i have much more control with tightness with my mouth
    plus, natural lubrication ftw. :naughty:
    of course, sex is better.
    but sometimes i just want it to be all about him. :drool:
     
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    Autorotate New Member

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    :naughty: Oh really....everywhere you say......





    :wtc: Just not near me.
     
  25. Panoptimist

    Panoptimist Put a bangin' donk on it.

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    All 3 of these!!!!!!!:sad2:
     

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